How Marriage Makes You Rich by Andrea Mrozek

28 01 2015

Marriage makes You Rich

Sara wouldn’t wish single motherhood on anyone. When she and her partner split, it was hard. She remembers the days of shifting emotions and shifting locations. And of course it was hard financially – which, she adds, it still very much is.

For Sara, the idea that family stability leads to economic prosperity is not a tough sell. She believes it’s true for her own family, and also for the country. Others, however, get angry at this claim. For them, it’s not only false, it’s simplistic victim blaming.

But those who believe there is no link between their own family’s stability and the prosperity of the nation need to know that evidence abounds.

Let’s start with unexpected sources. A writer for the finance section of a national Canadian daily recently revealed her number one advice for accruing wealth over the life course: stay married. She herself did not and suffered financially for it.

The research

Statistics Canada further solidifies the link. Data shows single parents are more likely to live in poverty. Of couple households with children, 5.7 per cent are in poverty (as measured by the Low Income Cut-Off, LICO). By contrast, of single female households with children, 21.8 per cent live below the LICO.

Canadian researchers Finnie and Sweetman suggest in a 2003 study that moving from lone parenthood to any other family form significantly decreases the probability of moving into low income. (“Poverty dynamics: empirical evidence for Canada”, Canadian Journal of Economics, 36 (2), p. 306)

A recent Harvard study showed that one of the most important factors for upward mobility for low-income children was their family structure. Even the family structure of neighbouring families had an effect.

Other research shows that children raised by two parents are more likely to finish school, making them better prepared for the job market. Family stability boosts family finance and the economy in many ways.

Why does any of this need to be said? Isn’t it just hurtful, even if it is true?

Why it’s worth discussing

Deliberately connecting the dots between family stability and economic prosperity is important. A steady stream of cynics are willing to decry what they see as boring or traditional: the vast majority of Canadian families. (Statistics Canada tells us that 63.6% of children aged 14 and under lived with married parents.

Yet it’s not just about convincing the cynics. It’s important to help families themselves.

In a profoundly individualistic culture where we fail to see a purpose for marriage outside ourselves, we find fewer reasons to make our own marriages work. Atomized or non-existent communities don’t help. This makes it all the more important to talk about the benefits of marriage for children, for the family or for the country.

The success of families and their communities are intertwined. Detroit comes to mind as a city with a low level of two-parent homes. In 2010, only three in ten children in Detroit were living with married parents. The vast majority were being raised in single mom households—with the greater likelihood of poverty that brings.

The public sector can attempt to act as family when families fail, but this neither promotes human flourishing nor balanced budgets. Some things are irreplaceable. This is not to say that children raised by single parents cannot succeed, or even go on to become President of the United States, to cite one prominent example. In the aggregate, however, family stability proffers benefits for children, for parents and for the economy.

Some will know this to be true without needing academic research of any kind. But for others who may still doubt, we encourage you to take a look. The first step to solving a problem is recognizing that one exists.

21 Things You Should Stop Doing If You Want To Be Happy By By Cynthia Belmer

31 08 2013

21 Things You Should Stop Doing If You Want To Be Happy By By Cynthia Belmer

We all want to be happy. We often talk about how badly we want happiness, yet we keep repeating the same unhealthy habits over and over again.

The best way to achieve happiness is by eliminating things that aren’t serving us anymore.

So read the following list of what you should stop doing, and make your life happier today:

1. Stop complaining about what’s missing. Instead, be grateful for what you already have.

2. Stop being a jerk to people you love. Instead, open up about what’s bothering you deep inside.

3. Stop comparing yourself to others, because you’ll never feel good enough. Instead, focus on your strengths and let them shine.

4. Stop pushing people away with your criticism. Instead, accept your imperfections and acknowledge theirs as well.

5. Stop living in your past. Instead, forgive yourself and those who caused you pain and move on.

6. Stop seeking people’s approval, because you’ll always feel that something’s missing. Instead, believe in yourself and focus on what makes you happy.

7. Stop blaming others for your unhappiness, because you’re the author of your life. Instead, put a plan together to create the life that you want.

8. Stop beating yourself up when you make mistakes. Instead, use them as an opportunity to grow.

9. Stop falling into your bad habits. Instead, create new ones that will help you achieve your goals.

10. Stop wasting your life on Facebook and on TV. Instead, find new passions that will nurture you.

11. Stop living other people’s dreams. Instead, find your own and feel alive forever.

12. Stop being in a rush. Instead, focus on every moment because you have all your life to complete your tasks.

13. Stop worrying about everything. Instead, focus on every moment so you don’t miss out on miracles.

14. Stop whining. Instead, focus on what you want and take action to get it

15. Stop controlling others. Instead, appreciate who they are and what they are.

16. Stop thinking you’re the smartest. Instead, appreciate the best in others and work with them to create a more harmonious world.

17. Stop trying to impress other people. Instead, be yourself and let people love you for who you are.

18. Stop surrounding yourself with negative people, because they’ll only bring you down. Instead, be around like minded people who appreciate you and support your growth

19. Stop saying YES to everything. Instead, stand up for yourself and say NO lovingly, for everyone’s sake.

20. Stop competing for success. Instead, realize that the world has enough for everyone.

21. Stop being scared of taking your first step. Instead, gain your power back and trust the process of life. Everything happens for a “good” reason.
What are your thoughts about happiness?


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