Terry Crews Confesses His Porn Addiction Ruined his Marriage

25 02 2016

 

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Terry Crews with his Wife and their 5 Children

February 18, 2016 (LifeSiteNews) — NFL player-turned screen actor Terry Crews has used his Facebook page to air a five-minute statement about the longtime  addiction to pornography that all but wrecked his marriage and distorted all his relationships. The video has been viewed over 1.7 million times since he posted February 11.

“It changes the way you think about people,” he said during the monologue titled “Dirty Little Secret.” Speaking throughout from the driver’s seat of his car, the  veteran of several NFL teams between 1991 and 1997 and supporting actor in several movies and now the police procedural Brooklyn Nine-Nine, added, “People become objects to be used rather than people to be loved,” and admitted he had to go into “rehab” to deal with the problem.

After seven years in the NFL the onetime courtroom artist went on to an acting career on TV and in film, with his recurring role as the father onEverybody Hates Chris. A Christian himself from a devout family, he married gospel singer Rebecca King and has had four children with her, also raising her stepson from a previous relationship with the whole menage the subject of a briefly-aired reality TV show.

Crews has told his story before, but explains in this video that confession is not only good for the soul, it is a cornerstone of recovery from a wide range of substance and behavioural dependencies, which is the operational truth of the 12-Step movement started by Alcoholics Anonymous.

“By not telling someone [the addiction] becomes powerful. By telling someone it loses its power,” Crews urges. Another bedrock AA belief is that an addict who shares his “experience, strength and hope” with other addicts, helps himself and them recover. For six years now, he continued, “it became my battle” to share his addiction and recovery to encourage others to deal with their own pornography addiction.

He apologizes to those who look at pornography without compulsion and insists he isn’t judging anyone. He invites anyone with any viewpoint to respond but especially those who are addicted, because sharing helps deal with it.

The turning point for him, he indicates, was when his wife found out and said she was leaving. “My wife was like: ‘I don’t know you anymore…[She] could have decided: ‘I’m gone…That would have been it. That was her choice. She didn’t do it. She stayed with me. She knew I was repentant. She knew I was going to get help. She knew I was sorry.”

Crews does not explain the origins of his addiction on the new video but has previously said he turned to pornography at the age of 12 to escape the misery of his abusive family of origin, itself marred by addictions. “It medicated me,” he said, but also transformed him.

In time it almost wrecked his marriage, as he pressured his wife to imitate the sexual scenarios he saw depicted on Internet porn sites by young women, often from impoverished backgrounds, many of them from Eastern Europe being kept in conditions approaching slavery.





How I Lost My Virginity by Coraline Yetunde

9 02 2016

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I started “habitually and compulsively” watching pornography or blue films as it is popularly called and engaging in sex when I stumbled across pornography at 13 years old. At first, I was appalled, but by the time I saw it over and over again, as violent and degrading as it was, I began to see it as love. The two people on the screen are being intimate.  I began to imagine myself in the scene as opposed to standing outside of it looking in.  I was stimulated by the fantasy of being that woman in the video and I began to try out what I watched.

I view online pornography everyday for half an hour or more at a time, and I have done this on multiple occasions and have felt “out of control” with sex, sexting and masturbation. I have had sex with about 57 men and none of my relationship ever lasted for more than a month. Simple things like a guy’s hairy chest or the outline of his trousers can trigger intense sexual desires in my head and at times masturbate five or six times a day. It is that bad.  I am 43 and unmarried and I really don’t know who will marry me. I have had four abortions and I have had to treat myself  5 times for severe sexual transmitted disease.

All in all, I suffer severe depression and know I would have remained a virgin till marriage but for the availability of online pornography. Pornography has almost ruined my life and yet it is everywhere. It used to be sold discreetly behind the counter or some obscure bookshops, now, millions of websites are offering the most depraved hardcore graphic and lurid sex scenes a click away on any smartphone with internet connection bringing in its wake an unprecedented obsession with sex building up some brutal and unattainable sexual desires which guarantee that they easily succumb any temptation to have sex with almost anybody. Actually, if you are watching pornography, you don’t need a guy to tempt you into having sex. You are practically going to be begging for it.

I recently came across the video of Oghosa Ovienrioba Speaks on how she got addicted to porn at 14 and her work helping others to kick the habit.

She says, “Lots of people don’t think girls can suffer a porn addiction but it’s a problem for both sexes. I hope I can help others out there – talking about your problem is the first step.’

‘I was 14 years old when I went to find porn on the internet. It was out of curiosity and it was just a simple Google search for me to get hold of an adult movie.‘When I first watched it, my reaction was shock. But gradually over time, that shock becomes excitement and I would use any porn that I could get my hands on.’

‘I was watching it so much that I started to get bored by the “normal” soft porn movies.

‘I wasn’t getting the buzz that I felt when I first saw it – in fact I was almost desensitized to that content.

‘I went from watching soft pornography to dodgier stuff to get the kick I needed.’

‘For a period of two to three years, I was watching porn on a daily basis and sometimes masturbating over six times per day. It was all I could think about.’

‘I didn’t see people as people anymore – they were just sex objects to me.

‘The simplest things could set me off such as a girl unbuttoning her blouse or a boy taking his top off. Everything made me want more.

‘I would sit in my room alone for hours, with the lights off, watching porn. I felt lonely and ashamed of myself.’

Please watch her talk about her porn addiction in the 10 min video below

It is not just her, many guys wish they could stop right now but the urge to watch porn and masturbate are just too much for them Read

To understand harm watching pornography does to your brain, please download and read the Porn Circuit:the_porn_circuit_covenant_eyes

Although much attention is focused on helping men break free from pornography addictions, ministries are rising up to help women find deliverance from this bondage. Beggar’s Daughter, Bethesda Workshops and Dirty Girls Ministries, among others, are offering God’s grace to women trapped in sexual sin. If you or a woman you know is addicted to pornography, I urge you to seek help.





Children Watch Porn More than Adults

7 01 2016

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The moment I knew internet pornography had cast its dark shadow over the lives of millions of ordinary British teenagers will live with me for ever. I was sitting in the smart drama hall of a specialist sports college in the North of England with a fantastic reputation. Before me were a group of 20 boys and girls, aged 13-14. Largely white, working class children, they were well turned-out, polite, giggly and shy.

As the presenter of a Channel 4 documentary called Porn On The Brain, airing next Monday at 10pm, I’d been invited to sit in on a forward-thinking class led by sex education consultant Jonny Hunt, who is regularly asked into schools to discuss sex and relationships. To establish what these kids knew about sex – including pornography – he had asked the children to write an A-Z list of the sexual terms they knew, no matter how extreme.

Most of these children had just hit puberty and some were clearly still children: wide-eyed, nervous, with high-pitched voices. Some of the girls were beginning their first forays into make-up. Several wore braces on their teeth. Everybody was smartly turned out in school uniform, and the most anti-authority statement in the room was a tie worn deliberately short. A One Direction pencil case lay on a desk. These were clearly good children, from good homes. So far, so very, very ordinary. But when Jonny pinned their lists on the board, it turned out that the children’s extensive knowledge of porn terms was not only startling, it superseded that of every adult in the room – including the sex education consultant himself.

Martin was shocked by what the teenagers said
‘Nugget, what’s that?’ asked Jonny.

‘A nugget is a girl who has no arms or legs and has sex in a porno movie,’ chortled one young, pimply boy, to an outburst of embarrassed laughter from some, and outright revulsion from others.
The adults in attendance were incredulous at the thought that not only did this kind of porn exist, but that a 14-year-old boy may have actually watched it. But the more mundane answers were just as shocking. For example, the first word every single boy and girl in the group put on their list was ‘anal’.
When questioned, they had all – every child in a class of 20 – seen sodomy acted out in porn videos. I was stunned they even knew about it – I certainly hadn’t heard of it at that age – let alone had watched it and as a result may even have wanted to try it.
One 15-year-old girl said, ‘Boys expect porn sex in real life’. And one boy – to choruses of approval – spoke of his revulsion for pubic hair, which he called a ‘gorilla’.
When Jonny pointed out that pubic hair was normal in real life, the boys scoffed, but some of the girls were angry that the boys’ template of what to expect from real girls had clearly already been set by porn.

By the end of the hour-long class – and three others that followed with other children – I was profoundly saddened by what I had witnessed. While teenage boys will always be fascinated by, and curious about, sex, what’s now considered ‘normal’ by under-18s is an entirely distorted view of intercourse and the way relationships should be conducted. It seemed as if the children’s entire expectation of sex had been defined by what they see in online porn. The conversation was horrifying enough, yet there was worse to come.

In the playground, I interviewed a brave group of seven bright boys and girls aged 14-15 to ascertain in more detail what online porn they had witnessed.

‘Nugget, what’s that?’ asked Jonny. ‘A nugget is a girl who has no arms or legs and has sex in a porno movie,’ chortled one young, pimply boy
One boy calmly recalled watching a scene too graphic to describe in a family newspaper, but which had involved an animal.
‘You’re watching bestiality?’ I asked. ‘That’s illegal. Where are you getting this stuff from?’

‘Facebook,’ the boy said. ‘It just pops up whether you want it or not, sometimes via advertisements. You don’t have any control over it.’
A girl added, ‘On Facebook, you just scroll down and it’s there. If any of your friends like it, it comes up on your home page.’

These kids were balanced, smart and savvy. They were the most academically gifted and sporting in the school. They came from ordinary, hard-working households. This was not ‘Broken Britain’.
Some were clearly shocked by what they had seen on the internet.

‘I find it dirty and disturbing,’ said one 15-year-old boy. ‘I try not to look at it, but people just keep sending it to each other. They email disgusting links to each other’s mobile phones to shock.’
One girl put her head in her hands and said, ‘It’s just gross’.

It’s horrifying enough for parents to know that children can get porn via the internet. But to think they get it from Facebook – the social media currency that has become a universal must-have for teenagers globally – will strike terror into their hearts.

I asked the teenagers: ‘On a scale of one to ten, how likely would you say it is that boys and girls your age are watching porn online?’

The reply was a chorus of tens, nines and one eight.

When I asked the children if there were parental controls on the internet at home, they all said no, their parents trusted them. They all admitted their parents had no idea what they were watching, and would be shocked if they did know.

What I saw at the school was awful, but sadly not unusual.
The findings were backed up in a survey of 80 boys and girls aged 12-16, commissioned for the TV show.
It proves the vast majority of UK teens have seen sexual imagery online, or pornographic films.
According to the survey, the boys appear largely happy about watching porn – and were twice as likely as girls to do so – but the girls are significantly more confused, angry and frightened by online sexual imagery. The more they see, the stronger they feel.

But what impact is this steady diet of online depravity having on the attitudes of boys and girls towards real life relationships, and on their self-esteem?

Could it even have a wider impact on their lives, blighting their ability to function in the world, get good qualifications and jobs?

What I discovered left me truly shocked and saddened.

You might be surprised. After all, from 2003-2010 I edited lad’s magazine Loaded.
With its frequent nudity and lewd photo spreads, I’d long been accused of being a soft pornographer, and after leaving Loaded I agonised that my magazine may have switched a generation onto more explicit online porn.
In the documentary I set out on a journey to answer the question: is porn harmless, or is it damaging lives?
My interest was deeply personal, too, as my own beautiful little boy, Sonny, is now four. Even though he has only just started primary school, the Children’s Commissioner estimates boys as young as ten are now being exposed to online porn.

I wanted to know what I could do to protect my own son from a seemingly inevitable exposure to hardcore material in just a few years’ time.
I used to be sceptical that porn was as damaging a force as the headlines and David Cameron – who recently said it was ‘corroding childhood’ – suggest. In the past I’d even defended pornography in university debates, on TV and on radio. I claimed it was our freedom of choice to watch it and said it could actually help add to adult relationships.

But what I saw during the making of the film changed my opinion of pornography forever.
The true stories of boys I met whose lives had been totally taken over by porn not only moved me to tears but also made me incredibly angry that this is happening to our children.
And the looks of revulsion on those poor girl’s faces in the playground enraged me.

I feel as if an entire generation’s sexuality has been hijacked by grotesque online porn.
To find out what porn is doing to young men, and the girls they have relationships with, we spoke to them via online forums and discovered that there were many young lives seriously blighted by an excessive, unhealthy relationship with pornography that can begin when they are as young as 12.
We learned that some had lost their jobs, others had broken relationships, failed exams, or got into serious debt through using porn.

‘When you interview young women about their experiences of sex, you see an increased level of violence: rough, violent sex. That is directly because of porn, as young boys are getting their sexual cues from men in porn who are acting as if they’re sexual psychopaths’
Take the 19-year-old man I got to know. He was handsome, articulate and in full-time employment as an apprentice electrician. But his life was dominated by his porn habit.

‘Every bit of spare time I have is spent watching porn,’ he says. ‘It is extreme. I can’t hold down a relationship for longer than three weeks. I want porn sex with real girls, but sex with them just isn’t as good as the porn.’

Having established, like the recent Children’s Commissioner report, that ‘basically, porn is everywhere’, we set out to discover what all this porn was doing to their brains.
Was it having any effect at all? Could it be addictive?

We found Dr Valerie Voon, a neuroscientist at Cambridge University and a global authority on addiction.
Then, in the first study of its kind, we recruited 19 heavy porn users who felt their habit was out of control and had Dr Voon examine their brain activity as they watched, among other things, hardcore porn. She showed them a variety of images, both stills and videos.
These ranged from images known to excite all men, such as bundles of £50 notes and extreme sports in action, to mundane landscapes and wallpapers – all inter-spliced with hardcore porn videos, plus pictures of both clothed and naked women.

The ways in which their brains responded to this diverse imagery were compared with the responses of a group of healthy volunteers.

She was interested in a particular brain region called the ventral striatum – the ‘reward centre’ – where our sense of pleasure is produced. This is one of the areas where an addict will show a heightened response to visual representations of their addiction – whether it’s a syringe or a bottle of vodka.
‘Letting our children consume it freely via the internet is like leaving heroin lying around the house’
What we discovered was a revelation. When shown porn, the reward centre of normal volunteers barely reacted, but that of the compulsive porn users lit up like a Christmas tree.
The compulsive porn users’ brains showed clear parallels with those with substance addictions.
Everybody on the project was astounded, even Dr Voon, who admitted she had been ‘sceptical and ambivalent’ about the study at the outset.
If porn does have the insidious power to be addictive, then letting our children consume it freely via the internet is like leaving heroin lying around the house, or handing out vodka at the school gates.
And this toxic effect is filtering down directly into young girls’ lives.
The most shocking testament came from Professor Gail Dines. Regarded as the world’s leading anti-pornography campaigner, she has interviewed thousands of men and women about sex and pornography.

‘When you interview young women about their experiences of sex, you see an increased level of violence: rough, violent sex,’ she says.
‘That is directly because of porn, as young boys are getting their sexual cues from men in porn who are acting as if they’re sexual psychopaths.
‘Pornography is sexually traumatising an entire generation of boys.’

By talking with sexual addiction experts such as Professor John E Grant of the University of Chicago, Dr Paula Hall, the UK’s top sex addiction therapist, and Professor Matt Field from the University of Liverpool, we learned that the teenage brain is especially vulnerable to addiction.
The brain’s reward centre is fully developed by the time we’re teenagers, but the part of the brain that regulates our urges – the pre-frontal cortex – isn’t fully developed until our mid-20s. The brains of teenagers are not wired to say ‘stop’, they are wired to want more. The implications of this study are profoundly troubling.
So who is going to take on the responsibility for protecting our children until they are old enough to do it for themselves?
Can we rely on schools? It strikes me that the current sex education system in the UK – where schools are obliged only to teach the basics of reproduction and the perils of sex, which they can opt out of anyway – is hopelessly outdated.

In the internet age, our children are turning to online porn for an alternative sex education – the worst place they can go.

The Mail claimed a victory in July when David Cameron announced that by the end of 2014 all 19 million UK homes currently connected to the internet will be contacted by service providers and told they must say whether family friendly filters that block all porn sites should be switched on or off.

But our TV show proved that determined children will always find a way around online blocks.
Ultimately, the responsibility lies with us, the parents. The age of innocence is over. Like many parents, I fear that my boy’s childhood could be taken away by pornography. So we have to fight back.We need to get tech-savvy, and as toe-curling as it seems, we are the first generation that will have to talk to our children about porn.

We have to tell our kids that pornographic sex is fake and real sex is about love, not lust.
By talking to them, they stand a chance. If we stick our head in the sand, we are fooling only ourselves.

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 Porn is Ruining Sex for Everyone by Kirsten Andersen

4 01 2016

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WARNING: Some hyperlinks contain strong language and/or graphic sexual subject matter

It’s an idea popping up with increasing frequency in the mainstream media: Porn is ruining sex for everyone.

The rise of the Internet has made porn more ubiquitous than ever, and a growing number of scientists and cultural observers are arguing that it’s toxic to real relationships.  No longer is opposition to pornography strictly the realm of religious believers and hard-core feminists.  Outlets as varied as GQVice, and New York Magazine have recently begun to publicly question whether all the imaginary sex people are having is spoiling the real thing.

A November 20 article on theGQ Magazine website purports to give “Ten Reasons Why You Should Quit Watching Porn.”

Drawing evidence from a recent survey of Redditors on the site’s “NoFap” online community, author Scott Christian argues that porn can lead to physical addiction, a decline in sexual satisfaction with one’s mate, and decreased sexual performance.

“With such an inexhaustible supply of porn at our disposal, there is a growing concern that it is beginning to effect [sic] our brains, our relationships, and even our bodies,” Christian wrote. “A recent survey of a Reddit community called NoFap – made up of nearly 75,000 people committed to quitting porn and masturbation – has helped researchers open the door to a better understanding of the effects of pornography on our lives.”

Christian highlighted ten findings of the NoFap survey that he said are strong indicators that porn may be giving people more problems than pleasure. These included the fact that 53% of respondents said they developed a porn habit between the tender ages of 12 and 14, while another 16% started watching smut before they even turned 12.

The survey also found that 59% of the respondents watched porn between four and 15 hours every week, that 42% of male college students said they visited porn sites regularly, 64% said that their tastes in porn “have become more extreme or deviant,” while many admitted to suffering from premature ejaculation or being disinterested in their real life partners.

“For those addicted to porn, arousal actually declined with the same mate, while those who regularly found different mates were able to continual their arousal,” Christian wrote. “It’s known as the Coolidge Effect, or novelty-seeking behavior. Porn, after all, trains the viewer to expect constant newness.”

However, he also pointed out that the survey showed that there is hope for the addicted, with 60% of those who embraced the “nofap” (no masturbation/porn) challenge saying that they saw an increase in their sexual functions, and another 67% saying it improved energy levels and productivity.

Christian isn’t the only young writer to take to the mainstream press with concerns over the damage porn is doing to people’s sex lives.  Davy Rothbart, writing for New York Magazinecomplained of his own inability to climax with a human partner after what he called “overmasturbation” while viewing porn sites.  For his piece, called, “He’s Just Not That into Anyone,” he interviewed a number of other young men who indicated he was far from alone.

“The initial symptom for a lot of guys who frequently find themselves bookmarking their favorite illicit clips appears to be a waning desire for their partners,” Rothbart wrote.  “For a lot of guys, switching gears from porn’s fireworks and whiz-bangs to the comparatively mundane calm of ordinary sex is like leaving halfway through an Imax 3-D movie to check out a flipbook.”

He shared the story of Stefan, 43, who is happily married but cannot climax during sex with his wife unless he replays pornographic images in his mind’s eye.  “Something is lost there,” Stefan told Rothbart. “I’m no longer with my wife; I’m inside my own head.”

Another victim of porn’s aggressive allure was Perry, a 41-year-old lawyer.  “I used to race home to have sex with my wife,” Perry told Rothbart. “Now I leave work a half-hour early so I can get home before she does and masturbate to porn.”  Added Perry, “It’s like I’ve got this ‘other woman’ … and the ‘other woman’ is porn.”

Rothbart talked to a behavioral therapist named Andrea Kuszewski who explained that when people have orgasms, their brains release a potent mixture of dopamine and oxytocin, the two chemicals responsible for pleasure (and addiction), and emotional bonding, respectively.  Studies have shown that the dopamine rush acts like a drug, leading porn users to crave their next fix.  But the oxytocin gives them a powerful emotional bond to the source of the increased flow.  Normally, that’s another human being.  But for porn users, Kuszewski told Rothbart, it’s the porn itself. “You’re bonding with it,” she said.

Rich Santos told Marie Claire magazine that porn had taken all the excitement out of his relationships with young women.  “Before the internet porn, a kiss would make my heart race, my lips and body tingle, and I’d get butterflies in my stomach.  Since changing my habits, I’ve lost that feeling: the newness of a real kiss. It has somehow muted my feelings,” Santos wrote.  But as he has tried to reduce his online porn use, he reports, “those feelings are slowly coming back.”

Mark Manson, another young writer, got hooked on online porn at 13 and had spent 8 to 10 years viewing it “almost daily.” Manson decided he was sick of the spiral he found himself in as he continued to crave increasingly depraved pornography, but found himself unable to perform in real life. He, along with a number of online acquaintances who shared the same problem, decided to commit to a 60-day “reboot,” fasting from porn for the duration.

As their experiment progressed, Manson said he experienced strong cravings for pornography and even had dreams about it.  “No, not dreams about having sex, dreams about pornography,” he clarified, adding that he thought that was “[messed] up.”  But the longer he went without porn, the more his desire for the real thing returned.

“I began to find normal, everyday girls to be more beautiful,” wrote Manson. “Minor flaws and blemishes that used to bug me were now endearing and sometimes even sexy.”

After his sixty days were up, Manson tried to watch porn again, but he found his tastes had changed. “Porn I used to enjoy now felt excessive, dehumanizing and honestly, not very attractive,” he wrote. “There were a few videos I saw where I couldn’t believe I used to watch stuff like that.”

“I couldn’t help but notice how unhappy and inauthentic the girls in the videos often were,” added Manson. “Not to say I haven’t noticed some of the actresses obviously faking their way through a scene in the past, but this was deeper. Like you could tell they just weren’t very happy people and didn’t have much self-respect.”

Concluded Manson, “For me, yes, porn had a noticeable impact on my sex life, and I’m much better off not watching it.”

Author, Kirsten Andersen

Article courtesy of Lifesite magazine





Watching Pornography will destroy you, says Ex porn star, Jennifer Lynn Case

7 12 2015

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Jenni, thank you so much for allowing me to interview you.

You’re very welcome, anything I can do to help, it’s my pleasure.

How long have you been out of the porn industry now?

I officially left the entire sex industry about 3 years ago after coming to Christ and finding Shelley Lubben and the Pink Cross Foundation but I stopped actively doing porn in my late 20’s when I got married and had my son. I didn’t spend too much time doing porn but I used my porn title to sell myself more in other areas and it worked. I used my porn experience to promote myself as a dancer and a prostitute, etc.

Yes, because when you are in the porn industry, the clubs will promote you as a “feature dancer” and you can get more money that way.

Exactly!! I was only 20 when I moved to Hollywood to get into mainstream porn.

How old were you when you first started in the porn industry, and how long were you in for?

I was very young only barely 18 years old when I started doing porn and I would say I did it off and on for about 10 years. I really didn’t know how to take care of myself and it seemed to be an easy way to survive. I would say that I was in the sex industry for about 15 years. They love to prey on young girls who need money. They are very easy to take advantage of.

Approximately how many movies did you make?

I probably made about 20 movies not very many at all.

Would you mind describing how you got into porn? I know that no porn performer wakes up one day and randomly decides to get into porn. There is always something leading up to it. Can you just lay out for us the events leading up to your decision to enter the porn industry?

I started out by doing other things first like dancing in a nude bar, doing bachelor parties, and escorting. I needed the money and hadn’t finished school and was living on my own at that point. I started living that sex industry lifestyle so eventually someone suggested that I do porn and it sounded like it paid really well and it was legal so I decided to contact a local agent who got me started. The agent got me a scene in a cheap hotel in Denver and that’s how it all started. I had no idea what I was getting myself into at the time.

What do you remember the most about that first experience. Was it very traumatic for you?

That first experience was odd. I was bothered by the fact that my agent used forged documents that showed I had been tested for HIV and other STDs. I had never been tested. I also remember the porn star I was supposed to work with that day was there but she couldn’t do anything because of her health. Her insides were so damaged from porn. I thought it was going to be me and a woman – less threatening right? But these 2 guys joined in and I didn’t think they were going to do that I was supposed to act like it was NOT my first film ever but I think they could tell I was new. There were lots of red flags in the beginning there.

What about your childhood? I know a lot of girls in the industry have backgrounds of sexual abuse, rape, neglect, or some sort of trauma. Do you think any of the events in your childhood made you more susceptible to the idea of getting into porn?

I definitely think my childhood played a big part in me getting into porn, etc. My dad was never around much and my parents divorced when I was about 8. At 14 I ran away from home and eventually became a ward of the state and remained in and out of foster homes, group homes, institutions, and other places until I was 17. I ran away alot and spent time on the streets where it was easy for me to get into trouble and my life was never stable after that. I was also exposed to porn at a very young age and saw porn magazines many times as a child. I think alot of things things from my childhood set me up for a nice, long career in the sex industry.

You mention your dad not being around. I know that’s the case for most porn actresses. I know it was for me. What would you say your emotional state was like during your porn career?

It’s actually hard to remember alot of what happened since I have blocked most of it out. I think emotionally I was basically “not there” and I numbed myself with pot and alcohol and other things so I didn’t have to deal with my raw feelings. I found myself depressed and lonely quite a bit and my behavior was erratic and very self destructive. I look back now and see there was alot of anger and bitterness there as well. I was a real mess.

For a lot of us, drugs was a huge part of how we coped with being in that lifestyle. How did you cope mentally and emotionally with being in the porn industry?

I think it was all about numbing myself and finding any way to escape or “check out”. My drug of choice was mostly pot for many years but I got to be a pretty big drinker when I turned 21 while working in a topless bar. I also realized later on that sex was a drug for me as well and slept around alot even when I wasn’t working. The marijuana mixed with liquor and sex were a bad combination and left me feeling more empty, lonely and depressed afterwords. As a woman in that lifestyle, you find you never have to pay for drugs or alcohol etc. because someone was always there to provide those things for me. One thing I remember was trying to separate the real me from the porn star me. I became two people and turned it on and off when needed. My other personality “Veronica” was just a fake front to cover up and to protect the real me so I could get my job done. Veronica was very social and outgoing and bold, The real me, Jenni, not so much haha.

Jenni, a lot of people who watch porn believe that the women love what they are doing, and are simply acting out their fantasies. Is this REALLY the truth?

This is NOT the truth about porn, it is a lie. The women living that lie do not love it and if they say they love it, it’s a way they lie to themselves to make it seem better. When I did porn, I wanted it to be over as quickly as possible and it was all about the money for me. I thought I did what I had to do to survive at the moment. My fantasies usually consisted of living a normal life, I fantasized about what life would be like if I wasn’t stuck in that nightmare. When you watch porn, you are watching a lie that is made to destroy you.

Amen to that!!! When you were in porn, what was your opinion of the guys who watched porn – or even men in general?

I grew to hate men in general and had no respect for men who watched porn. I thought men were perverts and just wanted one thing from women period and they treated women horribly. I think of men differently now. I see them as victims of the porn industry as well. I know that men want what women want too, not sex but love. We all want love. We all have a void to fill but some people try to do that with porn. Some men pay a price for porn addiction by losing their families and jobs. It is so sad and tragic to me that porn destroys the people who make it and also the people to view it. That is clear to me now.

Ya, but when you are in the porn industry, you don’t really see it that way, do you? You basically don’t care about yourself or anyone else.

Totally. You don’t have any respect for yourself or the person you’re with. It’s all about money, and getting what you can from the other person. It’s all about survival. You go into the industry not caring about yourself, and the longer you stay in, the less you care about yourself.

I know I actually hated myself by the time I left. What was the breaking point for you? When did you decide that you finally had to break free from all of that?

It was not just one thing really that made me quit. Many things happened at once and I became severely broken. I was in and out of the sex industry for many years. I tried to get out many times before but I would always need the money and I didn’t know what else to do so I would go back to it. I finally hit bottom a few years ago. I lost everything and things were not going well anymore. I had enough of selling my body and soul and couldn’t take any of it anymore. I just gave up and didn’t know how I would survive, but I had no soul left to sell period. I was dead inside there was only one way to go and that was up. This was the lowest point in my life. I had a son at this point and wasn’t going to let it ruin his life as well. If I would have not been a mother, I may be dead. I think part of my motivation was wanting to be a good mother to him.

So, by this time, you pretty much determined to leave because you couldn’t take it anymore, but were there any fears?

It was very hard at first but it felt really good to just finally let go and be free from all of it. My only fear was being able to survive without the money. The money kept me hooked. I was worried how I could take care of myself and my child. But I decided I would rather be homeless than ever sell my self again. Once you let go of the money, it’s much easier to get out.

We both know that a lot of girls in the industry suffer from mental illness. I know that I myself suffered from serious depression, even after leaving the industry. How would you say your mental condition was upon leaving the porn industry?

I know now that after years of living that life, I was traumatized by it. It was like enduring many years of oppression and abuse of all kinds. When I left and got rid of the drugs, etc., my emotions were raw for the first time in years. Over the years, I suffered depression and anxiety among many other problems and had to have counseling and take medication. Anyone who enters into that and already has mental illness, it will only make it worse.

What about physical problems?

Over the years, I mostly had to deal with STDs. I had so many different infections all of the time. I left Hollywood because I became so ill from Chlamydia. My abdomen hurt so much I had to come back home. My insides had been so abused, that at one point, a doctor at Planned Parenthood brought a group of interns in to look at my damaged cervix! I knew that “business” was taking a toll on my body and it also ages you quickly.

How did you personally recover from your time in porn? Was it extremely difficult?

I feel like the only way I could recover from that is with God in my life. God gives me hope that I didn’t have before. The past few years have been hard but so worth it. Things that helped me have been constant support from others, prayer, God’s word, and lots of love. The most difficult things have been trying to break old habits and trying to have a “real job”. It’s all about learning to live a new way, a better way. I think my recovery is an ongoing thing and it takes alot of time. I was in for many years and there was alot of damage done. I know alot more about porn now than I ever did when I was doing it.

Do you feel that Christ had a significant part in your recovery?

I know Jesus was the only way I could get out and stay out for good! For once, I had hope. Jesus saved my life. His love is amazing and I had never experienced love like that before. It was so intense that it hurt sometimes. My mind is being renewed daily by Him. All of the lies that ruled my life are being replaced with the truth, God’s word. I had realized that God was my father and would take care of me. He started to fix things in me that were broken. I become stronger in my faith every day. I don’t think He is done yet. he is still working on me. I think I am a better mother now because of all of this too. I would not have done any of this if were not for my little boy. I want him to know the truth about porn and treat women with respect.

What about recovery? Do you feel like the hardest part is over, or do you still have a lot of healing to do?

I do think the hardest part is over but I still have healing to do and it will probably take the rest of my life. I have learned how to live a new way and I have been learning how God works. One of the most healing things for me is to help others affected by porn. Reaching out to others helps me heal. God’s love fills that void now. I told myself when I was trapped in porn, that if I ever got out (which I thought I never would) that I would try to help women out of that world. There was no help for women like me. I am passionate about it.

So, what do you see for yourself in the future? I know that you volunteer with the Pink Cross Foundation and reach out to other girls. Do you see yourself continuing down that path?

I definitely think that’s where God wants me, going back into that nightmare to help save people from it. When I see some of those girls, I see me at 18. There was no such thing as The Pink Cross when I did porn. I know that porn is a major problem and it seems not much is being done about it. I love The Pink Cross Foundation and will continue to work with them. There is a certain way to handle the porn issue and educating and informing everyone makes a difference. I also plan on moving from Colorado to California to help with the cause.

That is awesome, Jenni. If you could say one thing to the men who are reading this right now, what would that be?

Men, GOD LOVES YOU! I love you too and I will always pray for all of you, for the chains to be broken. You are a slave to porn much as much any porn star. If you are viewing porn or addicted to porn, you are trying to fill a void inside of you that only God can fill. Whenever you look at porn, you are making the void bigger, and you will destroy your life. It evil it is a drug and it is poison and a lie. If you think you can keep it in the dark, God will bring it out into the light to stop you and heal you. These women are precious and deserve to be loved just as much as you do. There is a real person on the other side of the images you are seeing, and you are destroying her life and the lives of her children. Every porno has somebody’s daughter in it. What if it were your little girl? You may actually be assisting in someone’s death! Male and female porn actors die all of the time from AIDS, drug overdoses, suicides, etc. Please stop looking at porn.

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*First published on the website http://www.theporneffect.com

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The Only Thing Porn Can Do is Take

11 11 2015

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I’ll never forget the shame I felt when I had to admit to my girlfriend that I had done porn just a few weeks before. We were sitting on the couch in the living room of her parent’s house. It came up in conversation because we had recently gone through a rough patch, and she knew that I resorted to porn in times of stress. She asked me point blank if I had done it recently. When I said yes, her reaction was not anger. Instead she began to silently cry. As I watched her tears fall down her face, I felt an enormous helplessness. I couldn’t comfort her or tell her that it would all be okay. I could barely even look her in the eyes. This was pain I had inflicted, and I have never felt so weak and helpless in my life. All I wanted to do was get up, walk out the door, drive away, and never come back.

This is how the final months of my relationship with her existed. We would go through a rough patch and then I would act out on porn to make myself feel better. She would then ask if I had done it recently and I would say yes. She would cry. I would hate myself, and the cycle repeated until she ended our relationship without warning and without explanation.

We are told that porn is a private affair, that it hurts no one. I can personally attest that this is an absolute lie. I told it to myself in order to justify my own behavior without having to answer to consequences. The truth is that porn is exploitative, unrealistic, personally harmful, and is a death sentence to relationships if it is left untreated.

Besides my own story of how my porn usage contributed to the conflict in my relationship, astudy done in 2014 has found that frequent, or problematic pornography use contributes to poorer relationship quality, gender role conflicts, as well as less sexual satisfaction between couples. While the pornography use decreased, the quality of the relationship I had with my girlfriend continued to struggle. My girlfriend and I couldn’t trust each other, and it was easy for her to use my struggle as a weapon against me in arguments.

But it wasn’t just romantic relationships; porn was causing other responsibilities and relationships in my life to fray.

Porn tends to cause chain reactions. Porn was certainly helping to ruin my romantic relationship, which led to higher stress. Higher stress led to less focus on things that should have been important to me at the time, such as schoolwork, spending time with other friends, being open with my family, etc. I was working so hard at trying to pick up the pieces of my broken relationship, that I had no time or desire to give anyone else in my life the time of day.

Very few of my friends knew of my struggle with porn, and those who did were at a loss as to how to help. It was an uncomfortable subject for them that they didn’t want to get too involved with. This alone was isolating. It alienated me from a couple close friends and friends that did not even know about my struggle because I found myself withdrawing from social functions as I sunk deeper into my porn use. Porn ended up demanding more of me than my friends. It couldn’t be ignored because it was always waiting for me in my room. It ate up more of my time in the afternoon and evening, once to three times in a week. As my habit of using porn increased, my level of interaction with my friends and communication with my family decreased.

I may not be able to convince you of porn’s harm to others, but I can tell you how it hurt me and the people that mean to most to me. I went through stages of justifying my actions, trying to convince myself that it wasn’t so bad, etc. In the end though, I knew in my heart that what I was viewing was ultimately taking me away from people that I loved. I was choosing to give myself to something that could not love me back. I can’t hold porn in my arms like I can hold my wife after a hard day at work. Porn can’t tell me it loves me like my mom has my whole life, and porn can’t be there for me like my friends. The only thing porn can do is take. It takes my time, energy, and even my will to make it through a day. This is enough to convince me that it hurts my relationships. I’ve determined that life is too short to spend looking into a computer screen at people who I don’t know or love, and who don’t know or love me. I want to grow old and die convicted that I loved real people, and didn’t waste time on the emptiness porn offers.





Porn or Guns : Cause of Umpqua Community College Shooting

2 10 2015

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Sympathies are pouring in for the 10 victims killed and the seven injured on Thursday, when a 26-year-old gunman, Harper-Mercer, opened fire in a classroom at a community college in Umpqua Community College, southern Oregon.

In CNN, a visibly angry Obama pointed fingers at the proliferation of guns as the chief cause of the incessant shootings in America.  He usually does that and it is easy to pick on the obvious; but if we really want to curb this type of crimes we need to go beyond the superficial and look at root causes. Guns don’t kill people, it is people who kill people using guns. This distinction is important, especially when Washington Post, surprisingly, is saying that gun ownership in the United States is declining overall, yet mass killings is occurring with increasing frequency in recent years.

Daily mail profile of Chris Harper-Mercer makes out three things. First,  this guy had a penchant for violence. His profile says that he expressed admiration for Vester Flanagan, who shot dead his former colleagues on live television. Secondly, he loved IRA terrorists and the Nazis, this explains his love for mass killings and atheism

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However, when I read that most of the victims were women, an alarm bell went off in my brain. Why does he hate women?  None of the activities in his profile so far could explain his hatred for women.  Perhaps there is something here deeper than meets the eye.  A closer look reveal that Chris Harper loves pornography, and had recently uploaded a significant number of pornographic videos to a file-sharing website.  This I think is the root cause of his love for violence,   mass killing with hatred of women.

There are strong evidential link between violence and porn use. Deseret news reports that pornography leads to violence because the excitement factor for porn diminishes and requires more and more deviant materials to gain the same level of excitement.  “Internet pornography consumers are essentially training their brains to demand violence, because the images available are unimaginably depraved and violent. “

In this book, The Porn Circuit, we see how regular viewing of pornography rewires the brain of an addict, creating such dependency that often has violent outlet.

Russ Warner published a revealing list of serial killers with history of porn addiction, the most famous of whom was Ted Bundy, a convicted rapist and mutilation murderer of Washington, who said that hard-core pornography had a “crystallizing effect” on his violent tendencies and his acting out during the 1970s

Again, Newsweek magazine looked and found a link between prostitution/pornography  and violence against women, and reports that “Overall, the attitudes and habits of sex buyers reveal them as men who dehumanize and commodity women, view them with anger and contempt, lack empathy for their suffering, and relish their own ability to inflict pain and degradation.”

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Lastly, Mr Chris Harper-Mercer displayed all the typical symptoms of a porn addict, with his dysfunctional relationships, and an inability to deal with real people, especially women.

In Daily mail, he described himself as ‘shy at first, but warm up quickly’, he said he was looking for ‘the yin to my yang’ and ‘someone who shares my beliefs, and is similar to me’. He described his personality as a ‘lover, conservative, professional, intellectual, introvert’ but said he was ‘not religious but spiritual’ And a neighbor of Harper-Mercer, who lived in Winchester, Oregon, said he ‘seemed really unfriendly.

All these are typical symptoms of pornography addiction. According to clinical psychologist,  Dr. Peter C. Kleponis, ” Pornography harms young people’s ability to have healthy relationships. The message it sends to young men is that women are there solely for their sexual pleasure.”

Perhap, Obama should take a closer look at the proliferation of pornography (it is now a 10 billion dollar per year industry) and the different alternative life styles that fuel sex trade. These are the real root of the ills in our society.  It is time he gets a little angry with the millions of pornography available on the Internet creating a culture of violence for today’s woman and find ways to put a stop to them, that is if he really wants to stop mass shooting.

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How to Overcome Porn Addiction by Peter Kleponis

6 01 2014

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Psychologist Peter Kleponis on the New Cocaine and How to Get Rid of It
After a half century of vigorous efforts to educate the public on the dangers of tobacco use, the prevalence of smoking and its level of acceptance dropped dramatically. According to psychologist Dr. Peter Kleponis, the same effort can and should be made regarding pornography.
Dr. Kloponis is the assistant director of Comprehensive Counseling Services in West Conshohocken, Pennsylvania. ZENIT spoke with him about pornography use and its addictive qualities — and how to know when someone is addicted.

ZENIT: When have people crossed the line between the sexual imagery that is so prevalent everywhere in our culture, and actual pornography? Or is there a clear line?

Kleponis: To determine when a person has crossed the line between sexual imagery and pornography, we first need to look at how we define pornography. I define it as “any image that leads a person to use another person for his own sexual pleasure.” The key word here is “use.” Thus, the image doesn’t have to be of an unclothed person. The woman seductively portrayed in a beer commercial during a football game can be just as pornographic as a woman shown in a hardcore pornographic movie on the Internet. The “line” is different for everyone. For some men, that beer commercial is a form of pornography because they may find themselves briefly lingering over the image and sexualizing it. Other men may not even notice the woman in the commercial. For those men, the image is an example of the sexual imagery that is prevalent in our society.
We also need to look at how images are designed to be used. It’s obvious that hardcore pornography is meant to be sexually arousing. However, there are images of women in our society that are not defined as or marketed as pornography. However, common sense tells us that these publications are also designed to be sexually arousing for men. These would include the Victoria’s Secret Catalog and the Sports Illustrated Swim Suit edition. Few men purposefully watch football games specifically for the commercials; however, most men view these publications specifically because they are sexually arousing. Thus, they could also be considered pornography.
ZENIT: The prevailing view for a lot of people is, “why is pornography so harmful; they’re just images?” In a nutshell, how would you respond?

KIeponis: There are many reasons why pornography is harmful. First of all, pornography leads a man to use a woman for his own sexual pleasure. God never intended for us to use anyone. When a man is viewing pornography, he is usually not thinking that the woman is a person, with thoughts and feelings. He’s not thinking that she’s somebody’s daughter or about the terrible circumstances that led her into the pornography industry. He is not aware of how the pornography industry abuses and exploits women. All he knows is that she is there solely for his sexual pleasure. This is using her.
Pornography is harmful to marriages and families. When a woman discovers her husband using pornography, she often feels devastated. Many women view this as serious as an extramarital affair. Marital trust has been broken. She loses all respect for her husband. She is no longer able to see her husband as a good role model for her children. Many women experience symptoms of severe emotional trauma because of their husband’s pornography use.
Pornography harms young people’s ability to have healthy relationships. The message it sends to young men is that women are there solely for their sexual pleasure. For young women, the message is that in order to be loved and desired, one has to look and act like a porn star. This may account for “sexting” and the spike in sexual promiscuity among young people. It’s warping their view of what healthy sexuality and relationships are all about.
Finally, we now know that pornography is just as addictive as drugs or alcohol. Internet pornography has been called “the new crack cocaine” because of its addictiveness. As with any addiction, it can take over a person’s life. This addiction is tearing apart marriages and families, ruining careers, and costing men thousands of dollars.
The bottom line is that pornography is not “just images.” It is extremely damaging and should be avoided at all costs.

ZENIT: Is this just a problem for men?
KIeponis: Currently the breakdown of pornography addicts is 83% men and 17% women. Although it is still mainly a men’s issue, more and more women are becoming addicted. However, the addiction is different for women. To understand this, we need to realize that men and women are “wired differently.” Men are visually stimulated, and therefore they are attracted to the sexual images of pornography. While women enjoy looking at attractive men, they are not as visually stimulated as men. Women are more relationally stimulated. This is why they prefer romance novels, soap operas and “chick flicks.” While some women are attracted to sexual images in pornography, most are attracted to Internet chat rooms.
In a chat room, a woman can be whoever she wants to be, and she can indulge in an online sexual relationship. She is, in essence, writing her own romance novel where she is the heroine. While there are no visual images used, the text is very pornographic in content. With this addiction, a woman can end up spending hours engaging in multiple online sexual relationships. What’s more frightening is that women are more likely to meet in-person the men they have met online. This places them in potentially dangerous situations. Since it is a well-known fact that people lie about themselves in chat rooms, the man a woman meets could really be a dangerous predator. While women currently make up only 17% of pornography addicts, I believe this number will rise as more and more lonely women turn to chat rooms for comfort.

ZENIT: As you just noted, pornography use actually becomes an addiction. What are signs of this addiction?
KIeponis: Two common signs of an addiction are the development of a tolerance to the substance and a physical/emotional dependence on the substance. When a tolerance develops, a little of the substance is not enough. More is needed to get the same desired effect. With pornography addiction, a man will find himself spending more time online searching for porn. A few minutes turns into a few hours, and the content becomes more extreme. Instead of viewing it for a few minutes, he will end up spending several hours online. In addition, the type of pornography viewed becomes more extreme. Instead of soft porn, he now seeks out hardcore porn. This can include violent porn, fetishes, homosexual porn, and even child porn. This is because extreme pornography becomes the only kind of pornography that will arouse him.
Along with tolerance, a pornography addict will develop a dependence on it. Physically the body becomes dependent on the substance in order to function in daily life. Without a regular “fix” a man can experience real withdrawal symptoms. These include depression, anxiety, insomnia, irritability, difficulty with concentration, stomachaches and headaches. The dependence develops because the brain has become so accustomed to operating at an extreme level of stimulation (caused by the pornography use), that it can no longer function normally without that stimulation.
The ultimate symptom of an addiction is a life that is totally unmanageable, ruled by the addiction. The addiction has taken over and rules a man’s life. Life becomes a constant search for the next fix, which in this case is viewing pornography and masturbating.

ZENIT: Is this addiction prevalent? What can be done to stop its growth across society?
KIeponis: Pornography addiction is highly prevalent in our society. Research has shown that there are approximately 16 million sex addicts in the United States; many of these people are specifically addicted to pornography. Another study found that 40% of Christians believe that pornography is a problem in the home, and 10% would admit to being addicted to pornography. Because of the shame attached to sex/pornography addiction, few people are willing to talk about it. Also, because this addiction is being fed in the privacy of people’s homes, no one sees it. Thus, it seems invisible. However, every day thousands of people are becoming addicted to pornography. It’s damaging marriages and families, ruining careers and enslaving people.
Because of our First Amendment right to freedom of speech, pornography will always be available in our society. I believe the best way to stop the spread of pornography addiction is through education. I compare this to tobacco use. Fifty years ago, doctors knew that smoking was killing people. They knew it was causing cancer, lung disease, heart disease, etc. However, it was politically incorrect to say anything negative about smoking. Every adult had the right to smoke. It took 50 years of massive public education, and the example of millions of people dying from tobacco use, to convince Americans that tobacco was dangerous. Today, most Americans don’t smoke and are aware of the health risks associated with tobacco use. I believe that pornography addiction will have to be addressed in the same way. We need to educate Americans on the true dangers of pornography so that they too will choose not to use it.
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Peter C. Kleponis, Ph.D., is a Licensed Clinical Therapist and Assistant Director of Comprehensive Counseling Services in West Conshohocken, PA. He has 15 years of professional experience working with individuals, couples, families and organizations, specializing in marriage & family therapy, pastoral counseling, resolving anger, men’s issues, and pornography addiction recovery (www.MaritalHealing.com)
Article courtesy (Zenit.org).-

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VIDEO Fighting the New Drug (2’25”)

22 11 2013


We need to talk about pornography. Wait, don’t go. This is important. You see, pornography affects all of us.
It’s not a question of if you get exposed, but when. So what, right? Some people say it’s not a big deal.
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Impact of Kinsey Sex Theories on Children By Bob Unruh

18 11 2013

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Alfred Kinsey’s belief in child sexuality, with all of its impacts on children and society, now circles the globe, but a campaign to reveal the truth about his efforts to legitimize pedophilia is following right behind.

Judith Reisman, a visiting professor of law at Liberty University, popular lecturer and former consultant to four U.S. Department of Justice administrations, recently concluded a trip in which she delivered seminars on the fallacies of Kinsey’s arguments in Rome, Ireland and London.

One of her books exposing the agenda of Kinsey’s lifelong campaign recently has been translated into Chinese.

“The Kinsey Institute is very active in the sexology field, holding conferences in every major nation in the world. They’ve been training the sexologists, sex educators in every country,” Reisman told WND.

“There’s not a single country that educates the public about sex where the institutional position, [the teachers], have not been trained in the Kinsey model,” she said.

Her books, including “Kinsey: Crimes and Consequences” and “Sexual Sabotage,” show that Kinsey’s research was based on “illegal sexual experimentation on several hundred young children.”

His research results came not from a scientific cross-section of American, but from “hundreds of sex offenders, prostitutes, prison inmates and exhibitionists,” she documents. Kinsey, Reisman explained, used these people to represent the sexual activities and behaviors of the “Greatest Generation.”

The”K Bomb,” as she calls it — the “studies,” claims and “research” launched from the institute’s headquarters behind the gothic limestone Indiana University façade — have been used to “subvert” the nation’s traditional morality.

The impact has been seen worldwide.

“People in other countries are contacting me, asking me to please come and deliver the truth,” she told WND.

Kinsey’s extreme view of sexuality is typified by a statement posted on the website of the North American Man-Boy Love Association, which advocates sex between adults and children.

The statement, from Kinsey’s book “Sexual Behavior in the Human Female,” defends adult-child sex and accuses those who object to it of being responsible for “serious effects” suffered by children.

“When children are constantly warned by parents and teachers against contacts with adults, and when they receive no explanation of the exact nature of the contacts, they are ready to become hysterical as soon as any older person approaches, or stops and speaks to them in the street, or fondles them, or proposes to do something for them, even though the adult may have had no sexual objective in mind. Some of the more experienced students of juvenile problems have come to believe that the emotional reactions of the parents, police officers, and other adults who discover that the child has had such a contact, may disturb the child more seriously than the sexual contacts themselves. The current hysteria over sex offenders may very well have serious effects on the ability of many of these children to work out sexual adjustments some years later.”

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The acceptance of Kinsey’s research of rapists, pedophiles and others has helped foster widespread sexual experimentation and an anything-goes atmosphere.

It has resulted in a “gutting” of the nation’s tough laws that previously had kept pornography and predators at bay, she explains.

Reisman says that although Kinsey’s beliefs are taught at every level of education – from elementary school to college – and quoted in textbooks as undisputed truth, his research was “grotesquely fraudulent.”

Among her charges is that Kinsey’s data came from sources who would stimulate young children, as young as two months, “orally and manually for up to 24 hours at a time.”

Reisman has lectured at Princeton, Notre Dame, Georgetown, Pepperdine, Johns Hopkins, the FBI, the U.S. Air Force Academy, the University of Jerusalem, University of Haifa and Tel Aviv University. She has been cited by the London Times, Time, Newsweek, the New York Times and the Washington Post. She has appeared on “Entertainment Tonight,” “Larry King Live,” “Donahue,” the”Today” show and “Crossfire.”

She’s been listed in “The World’s Who’s Who of Women.”

On her recent trip to Rome, she presented her research to the Alliance of the Holy Family International, including Cardinal Raymond Burke, Cardinal Ricardo Vidal and other leaders of the organization.

A Vatican organizer of the events called Reisman’s work critical to the ministry of the Catholic Church.

Reisman also delivered presentations in Ireland, where she trained nurses and doctors about the true methodology of Kinsey.

“The most fascinating information [developed], for me, during the discussions, when it slowly emerged that abortion, allegedly illegal, was being carried out, apparently selectively, among the Philippine population. The number of allegedly ‘dead’ babies identified by … doctors actually shocked these nurses,” she reported.

“When I left, the Philippine attendees were planning to begin investigating whether indeed they were being targeted for selective abortions and, if so, when this process began.”

In London, her focus was on creating safe schools, and she reported how sex “education” often is used for sex “indoctrination.”

“Following the meeting, Jonathan Evans, MP for Cardiff North, and Andrea Leadsom, MP for South Northamptonshire, joined parents in delivering to the department of education a 47,000-signature petition … calling for sex DVDs to be banned from U.K. primary schools.”

Reisman further told WND that following the translation of Kinsey’s work into Chinese, some 500,000 copies of his advocacy for pedophilia have been sold.

As a result, two credentialed Chinese professors translated her book “Kinsey: Crimes and Consequences’ into Chinese, she said.

Meanwhile, her work in the U.S. continues. Last year she was at a symposium for “minor-attracted people” that was sponsored by the group B4U-ACT, which disseminated “accurate information” to argue that pedophilia is just another sexual orientation.

“If a foreign country came in and did this to our nation, the nation would be outraged,” Reisman told WND about the B4U-Act event, also attended by J. Matt Barber, vice president of Liberty Counsel Action.

The speakers urged the removal of pedophilia from the American Psychiatric Association’s list of mental defects in its Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders.

Reisman explained the same strategy was used by homosexual activists in the 1970s when same-sex attractions were removed from the APA’s list of disorders. Eventually, the legalization of “gay marriage,” the mandatory homosexuality lessons in public schools and the brand new policy of allowing open homosexuality in the U.S. military resulted.

The recent event wasn’t a meeting of minor unknowns.

“Dr. John Sadler (University of Texas) argued that diagnostic criteria for mental disorders should not be based on concepts of vice since such concepts are subject to shifting social attitudes and doing so diverts mental-health professions from their role as healers,” the B4U-ACT organization said in a report about its symposium in Baltimore.

Another celebrity was Fred Berlin of Johns Hopkins who argued in favor of “acceptance of and compassion for people who are attracted to minors,” the report continued.

The report pointedly referred to “minor-attracted people” in reference to pedophiles and explained that the concerns can be resolved with “accurate information.” Richard Kramer, who represented B4U-ACT at the event, contended listing pedophilia as a disorder stigmatizes the “victims” of the lifestyle choice.

According to Barber, conference speakers said the APA’s Diagnostic Manual should “focus on the needs” of the pedophile and should have “a minimal focus on social control” rather than on the “need to protect children.”

Barber, an ardent advocate for Judeo-Christian values and the traditional family, told WND the symposium was “the North American Man-Boy Love Association all dolled up and dressed in the credible language of the elitist Ph.Ds.”

“This is a bunch of morally relative, highly educated people in the mental health community who are trying to achieve the ultimate in tolerance,” Barber said. “These are the people who are the disciples of Alfred Kinsey.”

Further, a campaign last year was launched in the U.K. to allow convicted pedophiles to adopt children, since depriving them of that privilege could “breach their human rights.”

“There is no reason why all sex offenders should not be considered as potentially suitable to adopt or foster children, or work with them,” said an advocate.

Reisman also cited the decision last week by Greece to expand a list of disability categories approved by the government to include pedophiles and exhibitionists.

The Greek government said the list also includes pyromaniacs, compulsive gamblers, fetishists and sadomasochists.

WND Managing Editor David Kupelian, shortly after publication of “The Marketing of Evil” in 2005, predicted publicly that the next “liberation movement” to assault America would be “the mainstreaming of adult-child sex.”

Now he has noted, “The same godless logic that leads to normalization of homosexual marriage will lead also to the de-stigmatization and decriminalization of pedophilia. Remember, consensuality has replaced morality in today’s legal system, so a young person ‘consent’ to have sex will ultimately trump the old-fashioned desire to protect the innocent. Also, since adult-child sex is a ‘cultural preference’ in certain non-Western countries, child-molestation lobbyists are now making the argument that criminalizing adult-child sex amounts to condemning another culture. So that’s where multiculturalism has brought us.”
Seminars held in Rome, Ireland, London; book translated into Chinese

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10 Ways To Keep Your Kids Safe From Internet Porn by ANDY BLANKS

10 11 2013

How To Kids Your Safe from Porn

As part of my role with youths, I spend a lot of time immersed in youth culture. As someone who works with youth workers, this gives me insight into how culture shapes spiritual development. But as a parent, it’s allowed me to think about how we equip our children to successfully navigate the digital world we live in.

In light of this, I put together the 10 Commandments of Technology and Children, a short guide that will help you think about how you lay a healthy foundation for your children’s interaction with technology.

(Note: These are probably most applicable to tweens and young teens. Ideally, older teenagers should already be practicing healthy habits with social media. My concern here is with laying a good foundation while they are young.)

1. Thou Shalt Engage In Open Dialogue About What Your Children Encounter Online

Over and over again, remind your children they can always talk to you about anything they see online that is disturbing, funny, weird, scary . . . whatever. You can’t overemphasize this. Create the expectation early that you are going to be engaged with what they are doing Online.

2. Thou Shalt Give More Freedom As Your Children Earn It

If you start out with no boundaries, it’s hard to put them in place when you need them. Start out on the strict end of the spectrum. Create the understanding that technology is awesome, but it has to be handled responsibly. As your children get older and prove they are more responsible, relax your rules appropriately to their level of responsibility.

3. Thou Shalt Put Limits On Screen Time

We limit total screen time, which includes TV and iPad/Kindle usage. We let our girls choose how they want to spend it. The amount of screen time you choose is up to you. But a good rule of thumb is to limit screen time in such a way that it creates blocks of time where the family is together but not engaged in technology.

4. Thou Shalt Unashamedly Monitor Your Children’s Activity

Tell your kids up-front that you will routinely be monitoring their activity, whether it’s their browser history or their text messages. For tweens and younger teens, this is a must. As your children get older and show more responsibility, you can and should back off on this. Some. But set the ground rule that at anytime you can and will check their phone or tablet. Which leads me to the 5th Commandment.

5. Thou Shalt Have A “No Deleting” Policy

This is kind of related to the 4th Commandment. I advise parents to have a standing rule with their children: no deleting. No deleting texts. No clearing browser history. The thought behind this is simple: if you’re deleting texts or browser history, you’re hiding something. It’s pretty easy to look at a thread of texts and figure out what’s missing. Same with your device’s browser history. If there’s nothing there, it’s been deleted. Not cool.

6. Thou Shalt Use Filtering/Parental Control Software

Find a filtering/parental control software that fits your budget and purchase it. Use it. You’re not doing this to be an overbearing ogre. You’re doing it to protect your children from accidentally going places they don’t intend.

7. Thou Shalt Not Place All Your Trust In Filtering/Parental Control Software

There are ways to get around this software. And there’s not a one I have ever used or demo-ed that is perfect. Don’t think filtering software means you don’t have to monitor your kids’ activity. You do.

8. Thou Shalt Have Your Children Check In Their Devices At Bedtime

This great idea came from my friend Adam McLane (who blogs HERE with a great perspective on technology and family) and I love it. There’s a lot of reasons why it’s bad for your kids to go to bed with their phones or tablets in their hands. Have a standing rule that sometime before bed time, they check-in their devices in a preselected place, where they will stay until the morning.

9. Thou Shalt Know The Apps Your Children Purchase

The parents I know who are the most savvy about technology have their children’s devices synced with the parent’s account. That way all purchases come through you. If my kids want an app, they have to come ask me. If you want to give your children your password, that’s fine. You should still look for the email that tells you what they buy and make sure their activity is inline with your values.

10. Thou Shalt Model Healthy Technology Behaviors Yourself

I swear I’m going to punch the next dad I see at a restaurant with his head buried in his phone while his family goes about their dinner. (I mean, I won’t, but I will want to!) Parents, please stop being so crappy at this. Do the right thing. Put your phone down at dinner. Seriously.

Those are my 10 Commandments. What did I miss? What commandment would you add?

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Why More And More Women Are Watching Porn By JENNIFER LECLAIRE

5 11 2013

Why More And More Women Are Watching Porn By JENNIFER LECLAIRE

A new study reveals women are struggling with graphic sexual immorality in droves.
“It was an ordinary weekday morning when Caroline first noticed how much pornography was taking over her life. With 15 minutes to go before she was due to leave for a job interview, she opened up her laptop to print off an extra copy of her C.V. and there, onscreen, was a grab she’d saved from [a porn site].

“’I remember the feeling of being sucked in, really wanting that two-minute fix, that numbness I got when I used porn,’ says Caroline. ‘I was stressed out, and I risked being late for my interview, but I pressed play anyway and fast-forwarded it to the bit I wanted. It took two minutes. … Afterwards I just hated myself for giving in and getting off on images that treated women like pieces of meat. But I kept going back.’”

Those are the opening paragraphs of a story from The Guardian called “Why More and More Women Are Using Pornography.” Revelations of female porn addiction are an eye-opening issue. Most people assume the problem is exclusive to testosterone-driven men. But a new study reveals that women are struggling with graphic sexual immorality in droves.,,

But get this: Online porn viewership has quadrupled for women in just three years. A 2010 Pew report shows only 2 percent of women admitted to watching online porn. And again, it’s likely that the true numbers are even greater.

And that’s not the worst of it. CovenantEyes has gathered shocking statistics from various studies. Here are a few of them:

According to a study published in the Journal of Adolescent Research, about half (49 percent) of young adult women agree that viewing pornography is an acceptable way of expressing one’s sexuality.
Exposures to porn during childhood are not just brief glimpses. Some teen girls are viewing online pornography for a half-hour or more at a time, and 1 in 7 have done this on multiple occasions.
Of the women in the Dirty Girls community, 87 percent say they feel or have felt “out of control” when it comes to the matter of masturbation; 70 percent say the same about sexual fantasies, according to Dirty Girls Ministries.
Of the women in the Dirty Girls community, 45 percent said they started “habitually and compulsively” watching pornography or engaging in cybersex when they were 13-17 years old.
Of the women in the Dirty Girls community, 27 percent say they feel or have felt “out of control” when it comes to sexually chatting online; 11 percent say the same thing about sexting…

But there is hope. Although much attention is focused on helping men break free from pornography addictions, ministries are rising up to help women find deliverance from this bondage. Beggar’s Daughter, Bethesda Workshops and Dirty Girls Ministries, among others, are offering God’s grace to women trapped in sexual sin. If you or a woman you know is addicted to pornography, I urge you to seek help. Jesus is your deliverer, and He won’t leave you trapped in Jezebel’s clutches.
Jennifer LeClaire is news editor at Charisma.








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