Arsenal striker Gabriel abandons his girl with 8 months baby.

28 01 2023

Lessons for girls searching for Mr. Right

Raiane Lima, a top social media influencer, was dumped by her boyfriend, football player Gabriel Jesus, just 8 months after giving birth to the football player’s beautiful daughter. The details of how the couple split is as hazy as the details of how they met, but it is clear that the 22-year-old media influencer with over 450 thousand Instagram flowers followers must care for her baby on her own, relying on earnings from her online advertising of various trending fashion outfits, which has a large fan following. Many fans  must have been surprised when Raiane took to her Instagram to announce the breakup in the following words:

“And whoever wants to judge can judge. Anyone who wants to say some bad things can speak.

“Since some like disgrace, I do it myself question of announcing the end of something that almost consumed me.

“Who wants to celebrate too, can celebrate (especially family members).

“After this post, you know that you will never again see me talk about what we went through, or about any subject related to our daughter.

“It wasn’t betrayal, it was just pressure from everyone and everything.

“We got along well, but because of other people’s problems, it always got to us.

“I can’t take it anymore, and I’m not going to force myself into something that’s killing me.”

She followed up the announcement by deleting all of the footballer’s pictures on her feed.  When she first announced her relationship with the footballer on Instagram, her fan base exploded, with thousands of girls flocking to her updated pages. Nonetheless, it should serve as a caution to avoid entering into a sexual relationship without the security of a wedding ring.

Things might be different right now if she had waited for her affair with the football star to mature into a full-fledged love of marriage before giving herself up body and soul to him. It is said that once a man has had his fill of sex, he quickly grows tired of the woman and seeks other titillations. She now has a baby and no father as a result of giving herself away so easily. As they say, sex has consequences. Furthermore, if they had been legally married, she would have sued him for child support, with a chance of getting a significant percentage of the $9 million per year he earns from his club, money to care for her child.

Hence, it is extremely unfair that Raiane bears the entire burden of raising his child alone, but that is what she gets for abdicating control over her body and preventing sex from happening until the wedding night. The good news is that she did not consider abortion, which I am sure many people would have done because it would have been just as wrong. Things will hopefully get better for her in the future; however, it is clear that having sex before marriage in relationships frequently results in a situation in which the woman loses.

Article by Tina Oluchi





[Video]One leg girl dancing for joy as she graduates

28 01 2023

Evidence that physical disability is not a lack of ability surfaced once more when Cindy Chilaka, a physically challenged University of Port Harcourt student, posted a video of her graduation with the title “What God cannot do does not exist.”

This multi-talented young lady, who completed a university course despite her disability and is also a talented hair stylist, shared a video in which she was dancing for joy whilst donning a t-shirt with the inscription “What God cannot do does not exist.”

The inscriptions refer to God and affirm how the concept of God and faith in his providence can help people face great odds with confidence. It is said that it is easier to climb a mountain when you know you will meet a friend at the top.

Believers and people of faith can face life’s great challenges with confidence and courage because they are assured of God’s all-loving providence as their father. This increases optimism about outcomes, and studies show that optimistic people have more positive outcomes. “An optimistic attitude helps us be happier, more successful, and healthier,” according to kidshealth.org. According to Liz Mascolo, General Mills’ business unit director, it focuses on positive outcomes (Umah 2017). “It doesn’t mean that you’re necessarily shiny and happy at all times of the day,” she says. “However, it does imply that you have the ability to look at a situation and, while it may be difficult, see around the corner and see the possibility…versus the difficulty.” (Umah 2017).

Optimism necessitates hard work, which distinguishes it from positive thinking, which is simply daydreaming about positive outcomes without putting in the necessary effort. Cynthia, despite her handicap, was very confident that God would see her through, and her faith gave her the optimism she needed to face and overcome those challenges. Her joy is shared by friends and family alike, and it stands as an indictment of those who give up and cease to strive for their dreams regardless of the obstacle. Cynthia’s completion of her graduate degree despite missing a limb and having to navigate around campus on crutches shows that those who have all of their limbs have no reason to give up.

To summarize, Cynthia’s faith in God’s providence manifested in her optimism and, as a result, fortitude until she achieved her goal, a lesson for all who face challenges of any kind.

Article by Yemi Isioma

Works Cited

Gavin, L.M. Optimism. Retrieved from https://kidshealth.org/en/teens/optimism.prt-en.html. Accessed Nov 20th, 2023.

Umah R. Why you should be highly optimistic if you want to be successful.Oct 5, 2017. Retrieved from https://www.cnbc.com/2017/10/05/why-should-you-be-highly-optimistic-if-you-want-to-be-successful.html. Accessed Nove 22nd 2023.





Kanye remarries, Kim says it’s really f**king hard

23 01 2023
Kanye and Kim when the going was good

Kanye West(45) recently married his girlfriend, Bianca Censori(27), in a private ceremony away from prying eyes, according to rumors. This comes just two years after his high-profile divorce from flamboyant Kim Kardashian in 2020, which ended a seven-year marriage that began in 2014. The speed with which Kanye remarried, while Kim remains in limbo with no relationship that appears to be stable enough to lead to marriage, demonstrates that women frequently get the short end of the stick in divorce because men can marry at any time and even to younger women no matter how old they are, whereas divorced women have difficulty finding men who will marry them.

Bianca Censori


“It’s really f**king hard,” Kim admitted in an interview. ” I don’t know if I’ll get married again, but I’ll have my forever partner. That I am aware of. He’s definitely coming. I’m at peace, and I’m going to have a good time until that happens.”


She should be reminded, however, that the essence of marriage, at least the Christian marriage, is forever, but this takes effort and determination to stick it out “for better or for worse till death do part,” even when things are not going well. Unfortunately, this is not Kim’s view of marriage. Kim, 40, revealed that she filed for divorce because total happiness seemed to elude her; after 7 years of marriage, she realized she was unhappy.

“I just want total happiness,” she said. “Obviously, I understand that complete bliss is not a complete reality, but all I want is to have it more of the time.”

Critics would argue that this is childish because no one can be completely happy in this world and that it is simply a sign of immaturity and being a spoilt brat. She claims she can’t believe she’s worked her whole life and made so much money to be unhappy. Forbes recently named her a billionaire with a net worth of $1.8 billion.


“I’m numb like, tired of that, but I know I’ll be happy,” she said, almost in tears. “I didn’t come this far just to be unhappy,” she explained in a recent interview.

They say that money can’t buy happiness and this is proving true in her case. Additionally, studies show that happiness comes indirectly and as a result of self-sacrificing love for others. For instance, a mother is happy indirectly by making sacrifices for her children so that they grow up happy and strong, and hence a mother’s true happiness is to see her children happy. Kim and Kanye had four children as a result of their 2014 marriage, and it’s heartbreaking to imagine what those children must be going through seeing their parents shunning each other and reuniting with total strangers.

What can Kim and Kanye’s children learn from them about fidelity, love, and keeping a promise? I doubt they would be able to learn anything good from two fickle, arrogant, thick-headed parents. Indeed, the availability of no-fault divorce makes it more difficult for parents to seek honest solutions to their problems, with many opting for the easy way out that divorce offers at a significant cost to their children. Indeed, every child has the right to a stable home and relies on their parents’ love and bond as irrefutable proof of their enduring love.

Kanye and his daughter, North

Her eldest daughter was recently shown in the paper meeting her new stepmother, which is sad and must be very upsetting for children, and until adults understand that marriage is not just about them, and that their children’s happiness also matters, this type of thing will never end. In any case, Kim will not find happiness and her forever love by hopping from one husband to the next, and unlike her ex-husband, Kanye, who can have any woman regardless of age, she does not have that option because her clock is ticking.

Article by Matt Lee





Scooby-Doo spinoff “Velma” fails as it goes Woke

22 01 2023

Scooby-Doo, a childhood favorite from the 1980s, has been remade for an adult audience. According to FoxNews, the Scooby-Doo spinoff “Velma” is supposed to tell the story of one of the main characters Velma Dinkely and is full of adult-themed scenes such as limb hacking, the character going to strip clubs, and high school sex and lesbian kiss. As a result, there has been an immediate and spontaneous outpouring of wailing and scoffing. The audience score on Rotten Tomatoes is less than 50%, and the IMDB history score is a paltry 1.3 out of 10 stars, with viewer comments so damning that Velma’s official Youtube channel has turned off the comment sections.

Why is there such a commotion? It should be obvious that people live their lives as they think, and their works reflect their thinking. That is why it is critical to think right and live according to the right values because everything you do will reflect your inner thoughts. Thus, people writing scripts for big studios like Disney or Pixar and others are thinking woke, and thus writing woke scripts, but can you blame them? If they truly believe woke is right and lesbianism is good, it is unavoidable that this will come out in their work; no one can help it. You live the way you think, and what you love eventually manifests itself in your works.

The fact that Velma shows have bombed and received negative reviews is relevant, but more so is the question of who will fill the yawning demand for wonderful classic cartoons that have all the proper virtues but none of the wokeness. Millions of kids are crying out for artists with brilliant ideas and non-woke film directors to fill the void left by the 80s cartoons they grew up on. No one should be shocked that woke cartoonists are filling the vacuum with their ridiculous woke ideas if the classic intellectuals are too lazy or unmotivated to rise to the needs of the people.

Instead of complaining about the disturbing drift of scriptwriters into woke ideologies, classic writers should buck up and market their own ideas through children’s cartoons. If the world is a free market, there is no reason for governments or authorities to ban woke ideas from the public sphere. Let everyone make what they want, flood the market with good, poor, and ugly options, and let the buyer decide. As the creator of the new Scooby-“Velma” Doo’s found out when the film garnered the worst IMDB rating ever for its woke ideas, the woke won’t save a bad product.

In short, the poor performance of the adult remake of the 1980s Scooby-Doo at the box office proves once again that many people do not like woke movies, and that these people make up a sizable portion of the audience interested in fine classical films and woke movies will continue to garner less and less attention until they eventually fade away on their own once positive content producers take on the job of delivering clear, clean, fun-filled movies.

Article by Mike Dije





McKenzie Bezos in a second Divorce, separation from Jeff hurt her.

14 01 2023

The recent news that McKenzie Scott, the ex-wife of Amazon billionaire Jeff Bezos, is divorcing her second husband in two years should come as no surprise to anyone familiar with previous research on divorce, which confirms the disruptive effects it has on victims, particularly women and children. McKenzie appears to be the innocent party in her 25-year marriage to Jeff Bezos, the father of her four children when Jeff’s obsession with another woman became public. Indeed, Jeff Bezos announced the divorce in a tweet in January 2019, following the public revelation of his adulterous relationship with a married woman, Lauran Sanchez.

Though McKenzie received a large portion of Bezos’ billion (approximately USD37 billion) in divorce settlements, it pales in comparison to what she lost: a family trust built over 25 years, shattered; betrayal by the father of her four children; the security of a familiar life all gone up in smoke, and the feeling of having to start life almost all over again, and launch out in search of love when her beauty and youth have already been spent. Some may argue that having the option of dating other men is part of the excitement of being single again, but that is not the case. Those who claim this are incorrect. There is a special joy in having a trusted confidant who has accompanied you on your journey. McKenzie and Jeff built Amazon from the ground up, and what a journey it must have been, with so many shared memories spanning decades, so many shared adventures, so many dangers overcome together, and so many bullets dodged. All of this is gone.

Hence, divorce hurts women more than men because they age faster, are more vulnerable, and lose their fertility at a younger age. Despite variations, research confirms that a significant number of women lose their ability to bear children (menopause) between the ages of 47 and 54. A man, on the other hand, is very capable of bearing children even at the age of 70 and above; in fact, the world’s oldest new dad, who is from India, fathered a child at the age of 96, according to Livescience.com (https://www.livescience.com/24196-male-fertility-limit.html). Furthermore, divorce, according to Reynolds (2017), is harmful to children’s well-being; it is unjust to wives, who need their husbands’ protection rather than being dismissed when their good looks begin to deteriorate (Reynolds 2017). That is why, according to St. Thomas, divorce is unnatural because it places the woman on an unequal footing with the man who, after having enjoyed her youth, is able to cast her out when her youth is failing.

Furthermore, divorce is also wrong because it puts both couples on guard as every temporary union does and hence, both couples may not be able to give themselves completely to each other without reserves, but rather deliberately hold back, keeping something back in case the marriage fails. Hence, the Catholic Church insists that marriage is for life and that the bonds are irrevocable, and that it is not a union based on the satisfaction of the two adults’ passions, but rather, based on justice, which includes keeping promises made for better or for worse. “The promise, made when I am in love and because I am in love, to be true to the beloved as long as I live, commits one to be true even if I cease to be in love,” wrote C.S. Lewis.

Hence, if this is understood, there would be less emphasis on being in love, which has resulted in so much divorce and broken marriages, and when people realize that they are no longer in love.  Jeff Bezos abandoned his wife of 25 years because he was no longer in love with her but with another woman, it demonstrates that human passions are fickle and nothing lasting can be built on them. “The Christian idea of marriage is based on Christ’s words that a man and wife are to be regarded as a single organism—for that is what the words “one flesh” mean,” writes C.S Lewis. Marriage is not for personal fulfillment, writes Seth Smith in his article “Marriage isn’t for you,:  You marry to make someone else happy, not to make yourself happy. More importantly, you’re marrying for a family, not for yourself. Not just for the sake of the in-laws and all that nonsense, but also for the sake of your future children. in addition, C.S Lewis argues that there are several sound reasons to remain married even if love is gone: to provide a home for their children, to protect the woman (who has probably sacrificed or damaged her beauty by bearing children from being dropped whenever the man is tired of her.

In conclusion, we could argue that McKenzie’s second divorce, which occurred less than a year after her first, proves that her separation from Jeff, her husband of 25 years, was detrimental to her, as studies show it is to women due to the greater sense of loss and insecurity women experience after a divorce due to the earlier aging and loss of fertility that affects them compared to men.

This article was written by Bawo Olisaemka

Works Cited

C.S. Lewis. Reasons not to Divorce when Love is gone, 2013. Retrieved from https://authorschoice.org/2013/08/04/two-in-one-flesh/ Accessed 9th Jan 2023.

Eli MacKinnon. Is There an Age Limit to Male Fertility? 26th Jan 2022. Retrieved from https://www.livescience.com/24196-male-fertility-limit.html Accessed 11th Jan 2023.

Reynolds, Philip L. “St. Thomas Aquinas.” Christianity and Family Law: An Introduction, edited by John Witte, Jr and Gary S. Hauk, Cambridge University Press, Cambridge, 2017, pp. 161–178. Law and Christianity.

Seth Smith. Marriage Isn’t For You By Seth Smith, 2013. Retrieved from https://authorschoice.org/2013/11/15/marriage-isnt-for-you-by-seth-smith/ Accessed 12 Jan 2023.





BBNaija’s Phyna and her abortions

12 01 2023

In an online spat with some critics, the winner of Season 7 of BBNaija, Ijeoma Josephina Otabor, also known as Phyna, revealed that she has had two abortions despite being only 25 years old. This young lady won the hearts of BBNaija fans with her open and easy manner in which she spoke her mind while pulling no punches. But behind those brilliant facades and quick smiles are pains, anguish, and broken hearts that drove her to terminate the two pregnancies. She stated that the first time she had an abortion; she was 19 years old and a student at Auchi Polytechnic, where she was studying Agricultural and Bio Environmental Engineering Technology. In an attempt to explain her reason for choosing to abort her baby, she said, “I knew am from a very poor background, we used to eat once a day then, especially in the afternoon and then carry it till the next day. So keeping the baby was out of the question.”

Though she did not say who the father was, it is reasonable to assume that it was someone who was supporting her and paying for her education, and taking advantage of her poverty. She was 24, had just finished school, and was possibly looking for marriage when she had her second abortion. She claimed she was ready to keep the child, but it was clear that the father of the child had no intention of marrying her and was abusive, so she chose to free herself from his clutches by having an abortion and ending the relationship.

Furthermore, Phyna believes that abortion is common among girls, and she claims that 98 of a hundred girls have had abortions, though many of them would not be so open about it. She is also quick to point out that having those abortions was a mistake, especially since she is Catholic; the Catholic faith views abortion as nothing less than the murder of an innocent child, and thus imposes a strict penalty of ex-communication on anyone who has done it or even assisted in procuring an abortion. The beauty of it is that, while the church is very strict, it is also very concerned with bringing healing and reconciliation with God for those who have fallen into this grave sin, which is why Pope Francis recently empowered parish priests with the power to lift the penalty of ex-communication and absolve the sin of abortion, which was previously only the prerogative of the bishop. As a result, Phyna went to confession and asked for forgiveness.

The lesson here is that every woman’s decision to have an abortion has a story, and understanding and compassion must come first before anyone casts a stone. In addition to the mistaken belief that abortion is the only way out of a toxic relationship, the main lesson here for young girls is that sex before marriage, no matter how rosy the promises made to them by their boyfriends, is ultimately the leading cause of abortion, and abstinence until marriage remains the only truly effective remedy. Understandably, this is a difficult sell for impoverished girls looking for money to pay for school, and thus an easy pawn for men with money and power. Nonetheless, any girl who is truly determined would be able to abstain from sex before marriage, even if it meant cutting her coat to her size and foregoing the nice toys that her rich girlfriends or rich boyfriends have. It is difficult, but it is possible with a spirit of humility and Godliness.

Even though Phyna now claims that she has repented and would never abort another child now that she has enough money to feed ten children, it is difficult to believe her because abortion is a moral choice to accept what is inconvenient, to shoulder responsibility, and to be willing to forego the easy way out and take the long and difficult path, and all of these are characters that require self-sacrifice, characters that cannot be bought with money. Furthermore, a key component of repentance is the willingness to avoid future opportunities that could lead to sin, which in Phyna’s case is not so obvious given that she recently participated in the infamous BBNiaja, a show that is reputed to encourage sexual immorality and provide an opportunity for sin not only for the participants but also for those who watch and enjoy such shows.

Furthermore, repentance and willingness to make amends must go hand in hand, and hopefully, now that she is rich with a 100 million naira prize, she can begin to make amends and lead a clean life worthy of a catholic Christian girl and role models for the young, and as the winner of season 7 of this last show, she has inadvertently taken the role of a model for many young girls who would wish to be like her, and thus she carries an even greater moral obligation

It would be nice if she thought about donating some of her money to help less fortunate girls who, like her, were forced to have sex in order to pay their school fees. Phyna could consider establishing a trust fund to provide scholarships to young girls who lack financial resources, so they don’t have to rely on men who will exploit them. Finally, those who would judge and condemn Phyna for her previous abortions should learn to suspend judgment and temper justice with mercy, knowing that love and understanding are far more effective than judgmental condemnation in providing lasting healing to women who have had the misfortune of having abortions. Indeed, Phyna should be commended for her bravery in speaking out about her grave guilt, and her remorse and true repentance would be evident in how she organizes her life and atones for past sins. Every saint, as the saying goes, has a past, and every sinner has a future.

Article was written by Tony Mobinayo





A Mother and a pornstar? The Story of Judith a.k.a Afrocandy

7 01 2023

by Chinwuba Iyizoba

According to an old Cherokee legend, a grandfather told his grandson, “My son, there are two wolves fighting inside us all. One is the devil. It is a combination of rage, jealousy, greed, resentment, inferiority, lies, and ego. The other is good; it is joy, peace, love, hope, humility, kindness, empathy, and truth.” After some thought, the boy asked, “Grandfather, which wolf wins?” The old man replied quietly, “the one you feed.” The story shows that depending on which wolf you feed, you can go from being a good person to a bad person; thus, in order to do good and avoid evil, you must feed the right wolf.

This appears t to be the story of Afrocandy, a Nigerian-born porn actress, who recently revealed that she was once a good homely wife. She shared photos of herself from 2001, dressed in traditional Igbo Christian mother attire complete with scarf and wrapper, and revealed that she was a regular churchgoer and parishioner at St. Leos Catholic Church.

Judith Mazagwu

So, what exactly happened? How did a Christian mother become a pornstar? How did a well-groomed Nigerian woman become a notorious Afrocandy seductress now poring over the internet in her underwear? Her real name is Judith Chichi Opara Mazagwu, she is an Imo state native, a wife, and a mother of two children, and she has a bachelor’s degree in public administration and a bachelor’s degree in business management.

In 2005, she traveled to the United States to meet her husband, with whom she had two children. Unfortunately, the marriage ended in an explosion of infidelity accusations, leaving her stranded in the United States with two children at the age of 36. Desperate Judith first tried acting and modeling, but lacking the skill or talent to make big money, she devolved into racy porn under the alias Afrocandy, something so out of character and shocking to ordinary Nigerians.

Today, her Afrocandy production company is the arrowhead pushing Nigerian pornography into mainstream Nollywood, and while she is currently meeting some resistance in the industry because most actors and actresses still have enough self-respect for themselves and their families to avoid crossing the thin red line between the innocuous nudity already present in Hollywood and outright pornography, she must sense that it is only a matter of time before they cave, and she is optimistic.

Hence, some argue that what caused the unassuming Judith to take such a drastic turn was the pain and betrayal of her broken marriage. According to an online magazine, in an interview with the Daily Sun published on September 3, 2010, she said she tried to save her marriage but he wouldn’t take her back:

“There have been a lot of rumors going around about my marriage and only a few people know the truth. The truth is that I did not leave my husband; rather, he left because of some gossip he heard about something that happened in Nigeria before I joined him in the US.

I begged him, and he returned. When he left the second time, I felt compelled to issue him with a restraining order. I really don’t want to go into details because I see that as the past, and I want the past to stay in the past because I’ve moved on; talking about it takes me backward.”

Furthermore, her rumored marriage to an Ibadan millionaire, Chief Kamoru Okiki, did not appear to have materialized in 2011, adding fuel to her downward spiral into the porn abyss. No doubt, all of her setbacks and doubles should be considered when judging this woman; however, with her level of education, she bears significant blame responsibility for allowing herself to be thus manipulated and induced by an excessive ambition and love for glamour. She appears to be someone who is willing to do anything for fame and fortune, including abandoning all decorum and modesty.

As previously stated, everyone has two wolves fighting within them: the wolf of wantonness that we all carry within us, which we must refuse to feed or it will lead us to dark places. Judith aka Afrocandy appears to have fed the wrong wolf her entire life, and it has grown into a werewolf devouring that part of her that was once a good homely Nigerian Christian woman full of decorum and good sense. Nonetheless, she should be aware that this wolf will devour her and everything associated with her. Furthermore, given that she was once a Christian and a Catholic, she should remember that pornography has been linked to harm to children and young people. The widespread availability of pornographic media has been linked to unwanted pregnancies in young people, as well as the spread of STDs such as HIV/AIDS among single adolescents (Ojo and Fasuuba, 2005). According to Nwankwo, about a third of adolescent pregnancies are terminated due to complications such as bleeding, anemia, and exhaustion (1983). And, as a mother, I am sure she understands the grave responsibility that those who create or market pornographic materials bear.

It is a pity that she has allowed herself to be used as an agent and purveyor of a foreign malicious culture alien to Nigerians in order to pollute and corrupt the minds of young people in a country already plagued by poverty, a lack of clean water, a hospital, and food scarcity. It’s a shame that all she has to offer our youth is a bad example. Longe et al. (2007) argue that. In a country where poverty is on the rise, children who sell their wares to help their families make ends meet are constantly exposed to situations that can jeopardize healthy sexual behaviors.

Unfortunately, the Internet, more than any other agent of social change, has contributed in no small measure to the removal of guilt, fear, and shame associated with unconventional sexual activities, and thus these poor Nigerian children have already been swamped and robbed of their peace of mind and African decency by the foreign crude bestial images emerging from dark taverns or Eastern Europe and sordid porn from America one click away on the internet, which they aspire to. Afrocandy has now deprived them of their last line of defense with her Nigerian porn. However, she should remember that those who throw stones should not live in a glass house. If she succeeds in corrupting our youths for profit, she may not like what she sees when the results come in, and the Holy Book says that it is better to tie a stone around their neck and throw them into the sea than to lead children to sin.

In conclusion, the breakdown of her marriage and being abandoned to fend for herself transformed a once homely Nigerian woman into a porn star, proving that everyone has both good and bad passions and must struggle despite the odds to feed the good side of ourselves. Nothing justifies turning to the dark path of pornography, so she must turn and feed the good things in her life, transforming herself into a force for good.


Works Cited

Longe, Olumide & Chiemeke, Stella & Onifade, Olufade & Scientifique, Laboratorie & Balogun, France & Longe, Folake & Otti, Victor Uzoma. (2007). Exposure of Children and Teenagers to Internet Pornography in South Western Nigeria: Concerns, Trends & Implications. JITI Journal of Information Technology Impact. 7. 195-212. Retrieved from http://www.researchgate.net/publication/228636199_Exposure_of_Children_and_Teenagers_to_Internet_Pornography_in_South_Western_Nigeria_Concerns_Trends_Implications/citation/download. Accessed January 2023

Nwankwo, J. Teenagers Need Protection from Unwanted Pregnancies. The  Guardian,  (1983, October 6), p.5

Ojo, O., & Fasubaa, O. . Adolescent Sexualityand Family Life Education in Southwestern Nigeria: Responses From Focus Group Discussion. Journal of Social Science,(2005) 10(2), 111-118.





5 yrs Relationship and No Sex between Actor Alex Ekubo and Model Fancy Acholonu

5 01 2023
Alex and Fancy

In the recent stories making waves, the model Fancy Acholonu said in an interview that she and her boyfriend, the actor Alex Ekubo, had never had sexual contact during their five-year relationship, setting off a media frenzy. Predictably, her comment produced a wave of conjecture, criticism, and allegation rather than praise for the couple’s wisdom, nobility, and self-control in not engaging in sexual activity before marriage. People in today’s sexualized culture who apparently have trouble wrapping their heads around the ideas of sexual purity and abstinence have even speculated that Alex might be a secret homosexual.

There are numerous reasons why someone might choose not to have pre-marital sex. In an article titled, 10 Benefits of Remaining a Virgin Until Marriage, Nancy Hanna claims that there are ten solid reasons not to engage in premarital sex, one of which is the avoidance of serious sexually transmitted diseases (STD) such as HIV/AIDS, Human papillomavirus (HPV) and many more. Doubtless, premarital sex has been shown to increase the risk of contracting one of the many venereal diseases that are prevalent today, as well as losing fertility. People who engage in premarital sex are more likely to contract STDs because premarital sex has been linked to sexual promiscuity. Consequently, Anna Kemarch argues in her article 16 Lessons I Learned After Losing My Virginity at 16 that couples who engage in premarital sex have a higher rate of promiscuity and are more likely to have more sexual partners than couples who do not, increasing the risk of sexually transmitted diseases. In addition to HIV/AIDS, other harmful, incurable, and disfiguring diseases, such as herpes, which has a cure, can be contacted. Anna claims that the only foolproof way to avoid STDs is to be faithful to one partner in marriage.

Even more forcefully, Maureen Abah argues in an article titled, 10 Reasons I’m Glad I Kept My Virginity Until Marriage, that abstaining from premarital sex allows both parties in the relationship to be clear-sighted and objective in the relationship, whereas sexual intimacy clouds the vision and can create unhealthy emotional attachment in an abusive relationship. She contends that couples in sex-free relationships are often more free to consider whether to continue the relationship than couples in sexual relationships, which strongly enslave them to prolong an unhealthy relationship based on physical attraction or the need for security. She goes on to say that people who are having sex may feel “trapped” in a relationship that they want to end but can’t find a way out of simply because they are infatuated with the sex they are having or they feel that they have given away far too much of themselves and are ashamed and lost. On the other hand, someone who hasn’t had sex can more easily break the emotional bond with the other because there hasn’t been such powerful physical intimacy. Furthermore, if the woman becomes pregnant, neither partner feels as free to decide to separate, marry, go to work, and so on.

Indeed, Alex and Fancy are able to walk away from their relationship with fewer regrets because they were not having sex, and perhaps that why they are able to do so now easily without bitterness. Indeed, Maureen argues that there is more than twice the physical aggression among couples having premarital sex together without any commitment than among married couples. There is less jealousy and less selfishness in dating couples who decide to postpone sexual activity than in those who are driven by passion.  Maureen gives the example of a friend who decided to end her relationship with a guy with whom she had sex, and the guy went to town bragging about how many times he had her and so on. Break-ups and the resulting pain are more intense when sex is involved. This is highlighted by the recent case of Empress Njamah’s ex-fiancé, who decided to start releasing nude pictures of her after they broke up. According to reports, Empress Njamah’s boyfriend, George “Baby Brother” Wade, decided to blackmail her by creating a WhatsApp group to which he added multiple people and began posting naked videos of her in her home. He has even threatened her with more, and as things stand, Empress may have to resort to lawsuits to end the humiliation, aside from the embarrassment of having her nude all over social media. More humiliation is on the way, since he has threatened it, and Empress may have to resort to legal action to stop it.

Empress Njamah

And for those who are making flippant comments about Alex and Fancy’s decision to avoid premarital sex, it is unfortunate that premarital sex has become the norm rather than the exception when it was once the exception.

In conclusion, Fancy Acholonu should be grateful that she and Alex never had premarital sex because there is no doubt that when you have not been sexually intimate and decide to break up, the separation is less devastating. Relationships based on sexual gratification are quite ephemeral and transient, and, as we have seen, there are quite a number of credible reasons for avoiding premarital sexual encounters. A few odd years ago, it was assumed by everyone that couples who are dating are clean and noble and avoid sex.

Article by

Chinwuba Iyizoba

Editor, Authorchoise





The girl who kissed the boy, and the barber: types of holiness

3 12 2022





If a rising Nigerian Musician can give his mom a gift, why can’t Jesus?

2 10 2022

According to an online magazine, Dice Ailes, a rising Nigerian musician, recently purchased a home in Canada for his mother. This is the video in which Dice gives his gift to his mother while she prays and dances for joy.

Dice who posted the video on his Instagram feed wrote: “Anything for you mom.” Indicating that there is nothing he would not do for his mother.

It’s heartwarming that the aspiring singer spends his first paycheck on a house for his mother.

And if you asked Dice why he did it, I’m sure he’d say, “Because she’s my mother, she gave birth to me, and that’s all.”

It makes sense; people like to honor their mothers. I’m sure Dice would buy his mother some spiritual gift (if he could) that would make her even more beautiful, such as freedom from original sin. The issue is that money cannot purchase such a gift; only God can. Because he is God, Jesus can. As a result, Christian tradition holds that Jesus protected his mother from original sin from the moment she was conceived. He bestowed the spiritual gift of the “Immaculate Conception” on her solely because she is his mother.

The dogma of the Immaculate Conception was officially declared on December 8, 1854, by Pope Pius IX, in the Bull Ineffable Deus. This document states:

The most Blessed Virgin Mary was, from the first moment of her conception, by a singular grace and privilege of almighty God and by virtue of the merits of Jesus Christ, Savior of the human race, preserved immune from all stain of original sin’”

Some may wonder, “Where is the bible?” It’s in the Bible, but only in an implied sense. For example, after Adam and Eve ate from the forbidden tree, God told the serpent, “I will make you enemies of each other: you and the woman, your offspring and her offspring.” It’ll crush your head, and you’ll hit its heel.” ‘

Given that Christians agree that “the woman” is an allusion to Mary, and “her offspring” is an allusion to Jesus, who would crush Satan’s head, this implies that the “enmity” between this woman and the serpent was predicted right from the start, and thus the woman was sinless from the start. In his encyclical “Fulgens corona,” Pope Pius XII says:

“If at a given moment the Blessed Virgin Mary had been left without divine grace, because she was defiled at her conception by the hereditary stain of sin, between her and the serpent there would no longer have been -at least during that period of time, however brief,- the eternal enmity spoken of in the earliest.

Furthermore, Jesus did not just make his mother sinless; he also filled her with grace, as the arch Angel Gabriel confirms in Luke (1: 28): “Hail, full of Grace, the Lord is with you.” Furthermore, Christ died for Mary because, even though she was born sinless, she needed to be saved just like everyone else, but Christ saved her in a unique way. Everyone else was saved by Christ pulling us out of the ditch into which we had fallen, but he “preserved” his mother from sin by preventing her from falling into the ditch through a unique privilege. Because of her important role as God’s mother, the merits of Christ’s passion and death were applied to her in advance, preserving her from sin from the moment of her conception.

Many Christians recognize Mary as Jesus’ mother, but some would hesitate to call her God’s mother. Why is this case? They argue that treating her like a goddess would be idolatry, something absurd. However, if they took the time to examine the evidence, they might discover that it is not so absurd.

In Galatians 4:4 we read, “But when the appointed time came, God sent his Son, born of a woman”. And in Philippians (2: 6) we read “His state was divine, yet he did not cling to his equality with God, but emptied himself to assume the condition of a slave, and became as men are

As a result, Jesus has both human and divine natures. Nonetheless, because mothers give birth to people rather than natures, Mary is the mother of Jesus, who is God. As a result, we can conclude that Mary is God’s mother. Indeed, to conclude otherwise would be to commit the error of either denying that Jesus is both true God and true man. This is what happened in the fifth century, when a certain Nestorius, bishop of Constantinople, argued that Mary only gave birth to Jesus, the man, and not Jesus, the God. The reason for this is that a mere mortal cannot give birth to God.

The Nestorian position was rejected or condemned by the council of Ephesus (4:31), which affirmed that Mary is indeed the mother of God because Christ is both true God and true, man, and is one person of God.

As a result, Christians, particularly Catholics, revere her because she is the mother of God. In fact, in the fourth point of the tenth commandment, God expressly commands that we honor our father and mother, and God himself expressly obeyed this commandment. Christ honored God, his heavenly father, and Mary, his earthly mother, bestowing graces on her and protecting her from all sin from the moment of her conception until the end of her life.

Furthermore, Mary is known as the ever virgin because it is believed that she was a virgin prior to, during, and after the birth of Christ otherwise, people may question if Christ’s divine. The prophet Isaiah predicted in Isaiah 7:14 that the messiah, Christ, would be borne by a virgin. This demonstrates that Mary was a virgin prior to the conception of Jesus. In Luke (1: 34), Mary asks the Angel, “How can this be, since I do not know man?” This is further evidence that Mary made a virtuous act by remaining a virgin from her earliest youth. Finally, when the Angel appeared to Joseph in Matthew (1: 20), the Angel said, “Do not be afraid, Joseph son of David, to take Mary home as your wife, because the Holy Spirit has conceived what is in her.”

Genesis (3: 16) provides evidence of her virginity during childbearing: “God said to the woman: ‘I will multiply your childbearing pains, and you will give birth to your children in agony.’” As a result, since ruptures of the organs of child bearing are the cause of pains, which scripture tells us consequences of the original sin. Hence, it is reasonable to assume that Mary, free from original sin, was also freed from pain in child bearing and remained intact and thus a virgin even during child bearing.

Evidently, the fact that Jesus entrusted Mary to his disciple John at the moment he was drawing his last breath on the cross is sufficient proof that had no other children after Jesus. Moreover, it is fitting that Christ, as the only son of God, should also be the only son of Mary, his human mother. Similarly, just as Eve participated in the disobedience of the first Adam, ushering sin into the world, Mary, the new Eve, participates in the obedience of the second Adam, Jesus Christ, by dying on the cross, ushering redemption into the world.

Hence, Mary is co-redeemer of humanity with Jesus, through her conception, and birth of Christ, the son of God. By her gift of him to humanity, she reconciled humanity with God, and thus making us children of God. Her corroboration with her son’s death on the cross resulted in the great gift of our redemption, the indwelling of the Holy Spirit in man, making us Children of God and Temples of the Holy Spirit. Similarly,  Mary is also the Queen of the Universe because she is the Mother of Christ the King. Just as Jesus’ earthly life culminated in his death, resurrection, and ascension into heaven, Mary’s earthly life concluded with her bodily assumption into heaven. As Christ, her son, reigns as king of the universe in heaven, she reigns as queen of the universe in heaven. In the book of Revelation, St. John writes, “And a great portent appeared in heaven, a woman clothed with the sun, with the moon under her feet, and a crown of twelve stars on her head.” She bore a male child, one who will rule all nations with an iron rod, but her child was taken up to God and his throne [Revelation 12:1, 5].

Finally, if Dice Ailes can give his mother a house simply because she is his mother, the fact that Christ would give his mother the gift of the Immaculate Conception simply because she is his mother should not surprise anyone, but rather makes logical sense.





Questions that could change our life forever?

19 08 2022

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The questions that could change our life forever?

1: What is purpose of man’s Existence?

2: Can you prove the Existence of God?

1: What is purpose of man’s Existence?

The first thing the speaker asked the group was what they thought their mission or purpose in life was. Someone replied that we were all made for different reasons, and that each person was made for a different reason. Someone else said that he thinks he was made to help other people. Someone said that his job is to help and heal people since he is in the medical field. Someone said that his goal is to grow, do well, have children, and make more people. In response, the lecturer said that having children is important because without them, the world would end. The last person to speak said that he isn’t sure why he is here, and the lecturer said that maybe he hasn’t thought about it enough. The lecturer went on to say that the question “Why am I here?” should be asked. Is a question that every smart person, any thinking person, always asks? Everything in life depends on the answers, and some people may find their purpose and follow it, only to find out they were wrong and it was a dead end. The lecture gave the example of Uduak Akpan, a young man who sold hard drugs and was recently sentenced to death in Akwaibom for raping and killing a girl who wanted to work for him. You can read the full story here.

The speaker also said that this young man used to be a 7-year-old boy who may have thought he had found his life’s purpose when he started selling hard drugs. But look what happened! So, he had the wrong idea about what he wanted to do with his life. We can say that he was misled.

The second question from the lecture was, “If someone told you that you won the lottery, wouldn’t you try to find out if it’s true?”

Someone said that he would first check to see if and when he had entered a lottery. The lecturer said that was amazing and that everyone should do the same thing to find out if it’s true, if they really did enter a lottery. The lecturer then asked, “What if the person who told you you won the lottery was someone you trust and respect?” If someone with a lot of respect and status, like the vice chancellor or dean, came looking for you and called you out of class to tell you that they just heard that you won or inherited a billion dollars, you would probably take them seriously and do everything you could to find out more about this inheritance you won and claim it. The lecture said that there is a belief system, faith, or creed that says everyone in the class has won a lottery, has a billion dollars, or even more than a billion dollars, has a life that will never end in heaven, and that if they accept this claim, they will automatically get all of this.

This seemed to surprise the people there, but the lecturer went on to say that this set of beliefs or faith is called Christianity, and it says that everyone is called to eternal life in heaven, a life of happiness and joy that never ends, and it is up to each person to claim it. The lecturer adds that, just as you agreed that it would be reasonable to look into the billion-dollar inheritance, no matter how crazy it seemed, you should also find out if it’s true that you entered a lottery. In the same way, it would make sense to look into what Christianity and many other religions say.

The lecture asked the students if they knew that religion has been around since the beginning of time and has always been a part of the history of the human race. He said that since the beginning of time, people have always wanted to worship God. The lecturer asked one of the people in the room if they had ever seen this happen. For example, if they hadn’t seen that their ancestors in different villages worshiped one kind of god or another (Alusi). The lecturer then said that this is something that has always been true about men, that it has been seen in ancient times, among Egyptians and Romans, that all men have a tendency to worship a deity, and that there has never been a society where spontaneous worship of God has not happened. In fact, in most countries, like the Soviet Union, the government has to use harsh laws to stop this natural tendency of man. The lecturer then said that this natural desire to worship some kind of deity, like God, is something that all men have always had. Many philosophers have come to the conclusion that if every desire in man has some kind of natural fulfillment in reality, for example, if a person feels hungry, there is food, and if a person feels thirsty, there is drink. It therefore means that this natural desire for God must also have a natural fulfillment in reality

 In his book “Mere Christianity,” the great author C.S. Lewis makes this point. He says it like this:

Creatures are not born with desires unless satisfaction for these desires exists. A baby feels hunger; well, there is such a thing as food. A dolphin wants to swim; well, there is such a thing as water. Men feel sexual desire; well, there is such a thing as sex. If I find in myself a desire which no experience in this world can satisfy, the most probable explanation is that I was made for another world. (Mere Christianity, Bk. III, chap. 10, “Hope”)

The lecturer said that this is one way philosophers have also come to the conclusion that there must be a God, since people have always worshipped different gods to show their desire for God.

2: Can you prove the Existence of Go

 Is there a question that could change our life forever?

            The lecturer then asked the audience if they thought God existed and if God’s existence could be proven. Many of the participants emphasized that, even though they believe in God, there is no scientific way to prove that God exists and there is no proof, and that it’s fair that no one can prove or even give evidence for that belief. The lecture emphasized that it is true that the existence of God cannot be proven by a mathematical formula or a scientific principle of chemistry, since God is not a chemical that you can mix together to test a hypothesis. However, there are logical proofs that God exists, and St. Thomas Aquinas’ five proofs for the existence of God were given as examples. He told the class that they had to read up on and understand the five ways that St. Thomas tried to prove that God exists, since we could only talk about one of them, which is called the “Contingent argument of God’s existence.” This is how the proof works:

Everything we see around us—the faculty building, cars, the university, the tree, etc.—is contingent, which means that it started to exist at some point in time and wasn’t there before. Also, everything we see in the world has a beginning and an end. Now, if everything in the world had a beginning that means there was a time when they were not there. If that is true, then there was a time when there was nothing. If we go all the way back, it would be true that there was a time when there was nothing. But since nothing comes from nothing, there would still be nothing now. Because of this, there must be something that has always been there, never started, and has always been there from which other things came into being. That something or someone must be eternal because it has always existed. Since it is the cause of all existence, it must also be the cause of its own existence, since nothing caused it to exist. Since it is the only thing that has never had a cause, it is the beginning and the end, or the alpha and omega. God is what we call the thing that has its own beginning and is the end of everything. Since it has no beginning, it also has no end.

Other reasonable proof of existence of God by Dr. Peter Kreeft can be watched here.

At this point, the 25 minutes were up, and the lecturer said that was the end of class for this week. He said that next week, we would talk more about the nature of this God and the different schools of thought about what this God is. For example, some faiths say He is made of stone, some say He is from Mecca and Medina, and some say that this God is not just one person, but three divine beings that make up One God. Are these true? Is there proof? Do the people who say these things have proof to back up their claims? Can these proofs be checked, or are they just making stuff up? In the next class, you’ll find out.

Lecture on Christian Doctrine delivered at ESUCOM

19th August 2022

By Engr Iyizoba Chinwuba





Weak men, are men no longer

8 06 2022

What happened to the idea of men as protectors of women and children?

A crazed man recently attacked a subway train, ranting, raving and generally harassing everyone. Next, he sat between two terrified women, and as they tried to flee, he grabbed one by the hair and pulled her down, while the terrified woman pleaded for help from onlookers. Surprisingly, everyone on that train, including a few men, was bent over their phones, pretending nothing was wrong. They, like the proverbial ostrich, would rather bury their heads in the sand than play the hero who comes to the aid of a woman in distress.

Fortunately, the madman let the woman go after dragging her by the hair, but it’s chilling that this could happen in broad daylight and in the presence of so many men, and no one had the courage to stand up to him. Would those men continue to act as if nothing had happened if the madman had plucked out the woman’s eyes or cut her throat?

What explains the phenomenon of cowardice and impotence seen here? Bray (2006) contends that men are no longer men today as a result of the feminist movement’s effort to deprive men of their manhood as a necessary step toward empowering women.

While Hudson (2013) contends that the cowardice displayed on that train is a relatively new phenomenon largely caused by the modern culture of social media, which has taken away men’s edge by depriving them of regular practice in the act of being men. Thus, the author argues that they were cowards due to a lack of practice in the act of bravery, a new phenomenon created by social media, which has removed the need for face to face human interaction and thus created men who have the body of an adult but are really toddlers inside, preferring to play with their toys rather than play their part in bettering society, unlike the real men of the past.

However, it is important to note that cowardice has always characterized the nature of man and did not begin with the feminist movement or social media, but rather has its roots in sin, which causes men to selfishly shave or avoid any circumstance that would complicate or even endanger their own lives.

Over two thousand years ago, Jesus preached to the people of Israel the parable of the Good Samaritan, encouraging them to overcome their fear and go out of their way to help those in need, to be kind and merciful.

In the parable of the Good Samaritan, Jesus tells the story of a man who was robbed and was lying on the road, and how people passing by, some of whom were priests, saw the man and crossed to the other side of the road and went away.

They, like the train passengers, did not want to get involved or complicate their lives and wished that if they walked faster, the injured man lay bleeding on the road would vanish, at least in their minds, but Jesus condemns their actions, recommending the Good Samaritan as a better alternative. Jesus suggests that the good Samaritan did what God desired in that situation by going out of his way to assist the person in need.

Precisely because the Samaritan, despite being historically hostile to Jews, overcame his prejudice and stopped to help the injured man, lifting him up on his horse and paying for his stay at the innkeeper. By using this parable, Jesus is implying that we should regard everyone as a neighbor and come to the aid of those in need. Certainly, Jesus warns us against turning our backs on our neighbor’s problems.

A Good Samaritan would jump in and fight if he saw someone being attacked, even if it meant getting his shirt torn or getting a bruised eye, but that is okay because it was the only way to provide effective help to others, and God will reward you for it.

Jesus tells this story to demonstrate the concept of the Good Samaritan, the character of those who please God and go out of their way to help others.

There is no doubt that social media culture has created a deceptive illusion that making a video of a woman being attacked and tweeting was a way of helping hand, making people who tweet feel like they are doing something, but if no one gives a helping hand, like in the case of this woman who was being attacked to free her from the grip of the mad man, then humanity has lost its humanity.

This incident reinforces the notion that the teachings of Jesus Christ are very much relevant in our current time and are far from outdated, as modern philosophers argue that modern society, with great advances in science and technology, no longer requires Jesus’ moral teaching. On the contrary, I would argue that Christ’s and Christianity’s teachings are still relevant, and maybe the only thing that can save us from the anarchy of individualism and nihilism.

References

Bray, W.E. (2006) The Emasculation of Men in America: 50 Reasons Why Males are No Longer Men. Retrieved from https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-emasculation-of-men-in-america-william-e-bray/1120571735

HUDSON, P. (2013) Why Men Aren’t Really Men Anymore. Retrieved from https://www.elitedaily.com/life/culture/why-men-arent-really-men-anymore





Deborah’s victory over her killers (Vidoe)

30 05 2022







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