Why is Hollywood is obsessed with sex?

25 06 2020

To begin, I recently watched an old movie called “Hologram for the King.” In the movie, a mid-aged man (Tom Hanks) traveled to Saudi Arabia to pitch a proposal for a hologram to the oil rich king of Saudi Arabia. On arrival, he discovers to his astonishment that things were not what he expected. Apart from having to deal with the heat and the dust, the culture clash left him reeling, and to make matters worse, he had no clue when the king who is traveling all over the world was going to show up for the meeting. The king’s cousin who was in charge during his absence was equally elusive. To add, he had to deal with a mysterious lump on his back, which he attempted to explore with a kitchen knife causing enough bleeding for his friend and driver, Kareem, to convince him to see a doctor.
At the hospital, he encounters a middle-aged Saudi woman- doctor and of course, they fall in love and begin a secret escapade. Finally, Hanks abandons his wife and daughter in America and settles down in Saudi Arabia with his newfound love.
It is striking how quickly an apparently solid story rumples down to sex and animal attraction between two mid aged people.
I wonder why they did not call it “The sex life of a mid-aged couple.” It is a pity that in the entire length of the movie, the king, and the hologram appeared only for a few flickering seconds.
Why is sex, divorce, and marital infidelity so important a theme in Hollywood films?
Hanks ditches a daughter who loves him dearly. He ditches friends, family, and relatives—chuck all out to live in Saudi Arabia with a woman he barely knows and whose culture and life would be burdensome. With any luck, right thinking people would know that this is widely unrealistic and any man that does that deserves a movie made about him even less.
It is not very hard to imagine a better ending for this movie. Hanks, if he were a real man, would have realized immediately that relationship with this Saudi woman would be self-defeating. That it would end up hurting him and the people he loves. It should have hit him like ice water that a life’s commitments he has with his wife and daughter is invaluable and should not be traded for quick fixes and, moreover, in a few years, he would be old and wrinkled and she even more, since science says women age much faster than men do. If Hanks were a real man, he would have thought through and walked away from that short-lived pleasure. That would have been a better ending.

by
Chinwuba Iyizoba





Lessons from the Danfo girl

26 04 2020

Here’s a story that shows how love conquers even the hardest hearts.

Something interesting happened on my way to Oshodi this morning. At the motor park, this rough mean-looking conductor was screaming for passengers, his vernacular oscillating between Yoruba and Pidgin English. ‘Oshodi! Oshodi!’ he shouted angrily as I, along with some other passengers, struggled for seats.

There was this beautiful young lady who waited patiently until the bus was almost filled. Then she pleaded to sit by the conductor until somebody came down, when she would have a proper seat.

The bus conductor didn’t even look at her pretty face; he hissed and shouted at the driver to move, while asking the girl why she didn’t rush like the other passengers. The girl started pleading in Yoruba interspersed with English before saying, ‘I know you are a good man, never mind the fact that you have been shouting’, (that elicited laughter). ‘Let me sit by your side, please’, she added.

Finally, with much frowning of face the conductor relented and she sat beside him. It was a tight squeeze but she didn’t complain. Instead, she started praising the conductor who in turn started teasing her, speaking (and sometimes spitting by mistake) into her face but the girl never looked away as she kept smiling.

He asked her where she worked and she replied that she was a student at the University of Lagos (UNILAG) studying accounting. The conductor teased her in Yoruba about why her boyfriend didn’t drop her at her destination but the young lady laughed it off and continued to gist with him in Yoruba.

When she reached her destination, the conductor alighted from the bus for her to come down. She did and paid her transport fare. Then the conductor told her to give him a peck on the cheek for being so ‘gentlemanly’, although he was really not serious about it.

Then it happened! The lady jumped forward and gave him a peck on the cheek! She then waved bye and ran down to her street.

The driver and other people began to hail the conductor who started joking, saying he knew he was irresistible etc. and others were taunting him. But not long after, the conductor put his head down and became uncharacteristically quiet.

The driver soon asked the guy why he wasn’t calling out bus-stops anymore, wondering whether the pretty girl had cast a spell on him. At that point, the conductor said something in Yoruba that I didn’t quite understand and then his voice became emotional and believe it or not, he started to cry. Others were now consoling him in Yoruba.

When I asked what the problem was, the lady beside me explained that the conductor said he just realised he would never be able to get a girl like that in his life. He was weeping because he knew no girl of her class might ever do to him what that girl just did, to touch a dirty person like himself; that the girl is nice and well brought-up and that if he had money he would have chased after her.

So the passengers were consoling him in Yoruba that he would go higher in life and be able to marry a girl like that and that he should not cry because it was not the end of the road for him. That really touched me.

For a moment in that conductor’s life, his facade of a street thug fell away and he was a vulnerable emotional aspiring young man, just like everybody else.

Every man who had ever wants to change his wife to someone better or a wife who wishes her husband was better, in fact everyone who wishes to bring out the best in others: love is the only way and affection is the best way to change people. The choice of this girl to treat this danfo “agbero” like a human being melted his heart and made him cry for that person he wished he was and knows that he could become.

Original story by Segun Adeniyi Thisday Newspaper





Self Fulfilling Prophesy

13 04 2020
Self fulfilling prophesy

Years ago, at a communication seminar in Lagos, the speaker talked about the “Self Fulfilling Prophesy” (SFP) as one of the causes of break between friends, business partnership, and family.

According to the encyclopedia Britannica, SFP is a process through which an originally false expectation leads to its own confirmation. In a self-fulfilling prophecy, an individual’s expectations about another person or entity eventually result in the other person or entity acting in ways that confirm the expectations (encyclopedia Britannica).

The video above uses a simple anecdote to explain SFP:  if two people go to the same party, one expecting to have a nice time, the other expecting to have a nasty time, most times, their expectations come true,  because each  will behave in according to his expectations thus fulfilling the prophesy. Thus, the one that expects to have fun would act excited, smiling, and meeting people.  People, in turn, will smile back and engage with him, and as a result, he will have a nice time. The other one expecting lousy experiences will be curt, restrained, and uptight. He will avoid making eye contact, people would avoid him, and he end up having a bad time thus fulfilling his own prophesy!

After the seminar, I was incredulous. I didn’t want to believe want to believe that I suffered from SFP; however, I began observing myself to see if it was true.

I must confess that only in very few occasions, this theory was accurate. Many times, at the office, if I “apriori” decided something was not going to work out, it won’t! Later if I checked backwards why it hadn’t worked, I would discover that I had acted in such a way to discourage it.

I have long stopped wondering why I do not get along with some colleagues at the office and why, if a friend told me that someone I have never met was selfish bum, and if I eventually meet that person, I came to the same conclusion. This by the way is why calumny (bad mouthing people behind their back) is sinful because destroying the good name of another increases the chance that SFP would kick in when other people meet them.  

What the speaker did not tell us at the seminar though was how to overcome SFP, because I could not. I kept trying to stop doing it without success. It was instinctive. I could observe the tone of my voice changing due to SFP but can’t do anything about it. The more I tried to change the worse it seemed to be getting.

Thanks to a holy priest, I got to know that it’s was part of the “human condition” or what spiritual writers call our “wounded nature” Wounded by original sin”

“We can’t remove it or change it,” he said,” You can only struggle against it, and that struggle is your victory. It has not compromised you. This is why we pray, my friend, this is why we  examine our conscience frequently, go to confession and receive the sacraments of Eucharist, because somehow God’s grace has more weight than our weakness and tips our scale towards goodness .

Chinwuba Iyizoba





Who is pushing hairy-legged men into shelters for homeless women?

18 03 2020

Rep Mike Quigley, recently attacked Dr. Ben Carson for not implementing laws permitting men to sleep in single sex shelter for homeless women.

Quigley, a democrat and an avowed LGBTQ+ advocate accused Carson,  United States Secretary of Housing and Urban Development, of delaying the implementation of an Obama era laws that granted full access rights to people who are not women but who say they are (Trans- women)  into single sex shelters for homeless women.  Carson said he has been delaying implementing the laws because it compromises the safety of women, exposing them to the real possibility of sexual assault.

Carson argued that everyone gets equal rights but no one gets extra rights. He said that throwing open the doors of single sex shelter for homeless women to biological males who claim to be women would violate the rights of women living in these shelters. It would be in fact permitting transgender rights to ride roughshod over the rights of women.  Carson recounted stories of homeless women terrified of hairy-legged men having full access to their bathroom.

however, Quigley ignored him while attempting to portray him as a bigot fostering discrimination against Trans-people who the law granted every right to be in the same shelter as women regardless of the risk.

 “Are you saying that if someone doesn’t like someone else in that shelter, for whatever reasons, that you can allow discrimination against those people,” Quigley scoffed.

“No, what I’m saying is that we have to take everybody’s feelings into consideration,” Carson replied calmly. “You can’t just select a group and say that their feelings trump everyone else’s groups.”

 Carson then called out Quigley for being passionate about transgender rights and asked him to proffer a solution that can ensure fair and equal treatment and harmonize the fear that real women have in sharing room and board with transgender. Quigley retorted that his solution is simply to apply the law and give the LGBTQ+ all they want irrespective of the objections of the traumatized and abused women.

You can watch the video below

All over the world, advocates of transgender are pushing laws and legislation to criminalize ordinary people who disagree with or hold views opposing theirs.  The powerful Trans-lobby and what they want is not acceptance but the jettisoning of values held to be true by every right thinking person.

Transgender ideologues preach that biological sex is not the same as gender and that people can be born in one sex but identify in another. Put plainly, a man can choose to be a woman anytime and in any place and the law will protect him and compel people and institutions to accord him the privilege of being a woman!

This might sound crazy to right thinking people but that is how it is. They are ready to use force, the coercive power of law to arm-twist those who do not agree. The United Nations on February 2020 released a document that claimed that religious reasons are the top reasons why people discriminate against women, girls,  gays, lesbians, bisexual and LGBTQ+ people and henceforth  urged governments the world over, to use force of law to curb religious freedom rather than violate the rights of LGBTQ+ people.

Yet many religions cannot accept this new and scientifically unproven transgender theory regardless of momentum. Christianity and specifically, the Catholic Church, holds a view confirmed by science that sex is the same as gender and that there are just two genders. According to Patrick Parkinson, a professor of law at the Queensland University in Australia,  the Christian principle of “love thy neighbor as yourself” applies regardless of people’s  sexual orientation, and no Christian can mistreat a transgender person  without violating this principle. He went on to say that, the idea that gender is fluid as touted by the transgender movement is as unscientific as it is ambiguous, and people of faith cannot accept them especially when it imposes a burden that cannot be borne without injury to conscience and faith.

Such was the case of a 24-year-old teacher in a Cathedral High School in Indianapolis who contracted a gay marriage in clear violation of what he knew was the school’s stands. The school authorities, after a long deliberation, forced to chose between interminable court cases on the one hand, and on the other, a real possibility of losing its catholic identity and scandalizing young pupils, they decided to terminate his appointment and face the music. The teacher filed a lawsuit in July last 2019. Luckily, the United States Department rallied to the defense of the school citing that the first amendment right protects faith-based group’s freedom of religion.  As of today there are numerous lawsuits that gays, lesbians, bisexuals, transgender and LGBTQ+ persons or their sponsors have  filed against faith based conscientious objectors coupled with intimidations, vilification and harassment of dissenting voices be it in politics or the academia.

Scientists explain Transgender as a kind of madness, as a neurological disorder. According to a research on the new Atlantis online journal, many Trans-people suffer from mental illness and suicidal ideation—symptoms not necessarily alleviated by sex change operations.  Yet rather than provide medical help to these people, the United Nation and many powerful agencies would rather force us to accept without choice or questions their theories and bend our minds to theirs.

This refuted theory, promoted by mainstream media and Hollywood, is trying to convince the world that there is a ‘gay gene’ just like there is female gene, that gays and LGBTQ+ are thus “born that way”, and thus since it is unconscionable to discriminate against women or girls because of their gender, it’s wrong to discriminate against Trans.

The problem is that unlike real women who have a fixed gender. Trans-people get to choose their gender, even without relinquishing the advantages that the birth gender gives them. Thus, a man who says he is a girl can compete in high girls high school sports against biological girls and have legal protection to do so.

The decisive factor here is that Trans-activists want to accepted as biological girls, boys, men or women and not as transgender. They are not fighting to hold on to what they believe but to destroy what everyone else believes. They wish everyone else to do them the favor of dismissing their worldview and swallowing theirs hook line and sinker and the United Nations wants to make sure they do that legally.

Yet, they say that the taste of the pudding is in the eating. Somebody regrets it all.  Walt Heyer, a business executive, a husband, and father, went from being a man to a woman at the age of 42, lived as a woman for 8 years, and did not like it. He has since returned his manhood and is now exposing the lie behind the transgender ideology. He says that transitioning to a woman did not solve his problem and even compounded them and he has since started a website to help others in his shoe who feels tired of the lies to come out and return to their normal life.

“No one can change his or her own sex, it is impossible, it is delusional, and it is a mental illness,” Walt says at the beginning of this documentary.

What drives this strange ideology?

The simple answer is money. Trans sex conversion therapy is a 200 million dollar industry and it is expanding; surge in demand means that manufacturers of hormones blockers and estrogens are making large profit; spikes in double mastectomy and genital reconstruction surgeries in Europe and America means that surgical clinics are struggling to meet demands and smiling to the banks.  Moreover, for those who change their minds, an even more expensive re-conversion procedure ensures no end to this flow of money.

 Politicians get donations and campaign funding. Transgender moneybags funded the election and re-election of Barack Obama. Former United States Secretary of Defense, Robert Gates, in his book, “Duty, a Memoir,” said that Obama took anything that affected the gays or LGBTQ+ people, personal. This perhaps will account for why the former president passionately promoted LGBT+ agenda all the way to Africa.

it is however doubtful Africans will ever buy into this dangerous hoax on the scale seen in the west. Reason being that African cannot afford it. Sex conversion surgeries cost money, the kind of money only the super rich can afford.  Expectedly, it will remain a malady afflicting rich countries. Still it is doing a lot of harm. 41-year-old Marcus Fitz of California says that the clinic physically butchered him during his conversion surgeries, and that it traumatized him mentally. Many are disappointed with the result of the painful and expensive genitalia reconstruction that hardly turn out like the real thing. It is high time the world held the  United Nations and dishonest politicians like Mike Quigley accountable for their double standards in condemning female genital mutilation (FGM) in Africa whilst encouraging young boys and girls in the west to mutilate themselves by surgically removing healthy breasts and penises under the influence pseudo scientific transgender ideology.

Chinwuba iyizoba is the Editor of Authors-choice





The Gay Agenda: What in the World Is Going On?

11 03 2020

If you are wondering what is going on with gays and transgender and cant get it, this is worth reading

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Cover of DVD The Gay Agenda: March on WashingtonThe Gay Agenda: What in the World Is Going On?

by James R. Aist

(Note: the numbers in parentheses refer to specific references listed at the end of
the article)

“Truth sounds like hate to those who hate the truth.”

Introduction

If I am to fulfill my original goal of informing my fellow born-again Christian believers about aspects of homosexuality that they really should know in order to be able to perceive and understand the culture war that’s underway in today’s world, then I am compelled to write this revealing article. Please do not dismiss these things lightly, as something that does not and will not impact you, your family and/or your quality of life. Because, in doing so, you would be making a very serious mistake.

In another article I detailed background information on the nature and consequences of the homosexual lifestyle (Click HERE), so that you can better…

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Stop making everything perfect for you kid

26 02 2020

There was a kid running at the neighborhood pool the other day. The pool attendant asked him to walk, as pool attendants have done since pools existed. The boy’s dad — a big-chested, serious kind of guy — came over to the attendant and told him that, as the child’s father, he’s the only one who gets to tell his kid what to do. If the attendant had something to say, it should be directed at him, not to his kid. He’ll decide if his kid needs direction.

I would have rolled my eyes, but the attendant kept his cool and carefully replied that it was his job to make sure people follow the pool rules, and “no running” is pretty much the universal pool rule. The dad pushed back and added some aggressive posturing to intimidate the pool guy. He didn’t see anything wrong with what his kid was doing, so, as far as he was concerned, the pool guy needed to back off. The kid was free to run at the pool because Dad said so, so fuck the pool rules. This is America! Nobody tells my kid what to do except me.

Uh, okay.

There’s a strange fear spreading amongst reasonable grownups. My sister’s family had some friends over. One of the adults gave one of my sister’s kids some polite direction about sharing, or something basic like that. You know, stuff people tell kids. Then the grownup realized the grave error she had made, and apologized to my sister for shamefully overstepping.

“Are you kidding?” my sister said. “I absolutely want you to tell my kids if they’re doing something you don’t think they should be doing! In fact, do more of it! They need to learn to hear things from people other than me.”

If I’m the only one who can tell my kids what to do, I’ve failed them by giving them completely unrealistic expectations of the world. Also, I can’t ever die or leave their side, because my kids won’t be able to take care of themselves. Following Big-Chested Dad at the pool’s logic, a lifeguard can’t lifeguard, teachers can’t teach, coaches can’t coach and, later in life, managers can’t manage. You see where this is going, right?

If I’m the only one who can tell my kids what to do, I’ve failed them.

The New York Times recently called this style “snowplow parenting” — affluent parents who resemble “machines chugging ahead, clearing any obstacles in their child’s path to success, so they don’t have to encounter failure, frustration, or lost opportunities.”

We all know that mom who’s always at the school, escalating everything to make sure her kid gets an A, is chosen for student council, or gets placed in the gifted program.

I’m striving to avoid that. My middle schooler and his project partner recently failed to turn an assignment in on time, after many reminders of the deadline. The other kid’s mom came to my house and wouldn’t leave until I talked with her for nearly an hour about the injustice. She was heartbroken about the disappointment her kid must be feeling at the failure, and wanted to fix it somehow, or try to convince the teacher to reverse his (entirely fair) decision.

I don’t mean to brag, but my high schooler fails at quite a few things. None of them have been too epic, but there’s still time. I recently told him it’s my job to let him fail while he’s still at home with me, because he needs to learn how to lose his shit and then pick it up and move forward. In my experience, that’s the most important of life skills. I’ll be damned if any kid of mine is going to fall to pieces his first semester in college when he doesn’t ace an exam.

This is an open notice to people who know my kids: Go ahead and tell them what to do. It’s really, really okay. Tell them not to put their feet up on your coffee table. Tell them to stop running, not to play with that knife, or not to touch your things. Tell them not to eat all of your potato chips, and not to take that drink onto your freshly cleaned carpet. Whatever the rules are at your place, tell my kid to fall in line. I have a selfish motive.

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An Oscar & BAFTA For Igbo Documentary Film

20 02 2020

In 1950 documentary style film ‘Daybreak in Udi’ won an Academy Award (Oscar) for best feature documentary , BAFTA Film Award [Winner] (1950)Best Documentary Film and the UN Award [Nominee] (1950).

This 47-minute documentary, financed by HRH’s government “Day Break in UDI” (1949) highlights the effort of a small community to build a maternity center amidst the opposition of some village men. The British colonial officer in charge of the Udi and Awgu, Enugu district was asked to help in the project. He helped and provided materials and motivation for the community. But in the end, it the villagers willingness to bring change and improve their community that triumphed. Filmed in Nigerian village of Udi in 1949, it is the first Nigerian movie to win an Oscar .

Most of the it was later edited into a 1953 two-segment documentary called “Savage World” by the same crew of film-makers listed on this film.





School principal felt “called by God” to donate kidney to students’ father

17 02 2020

Two years ago, principal Sarah Schecter, Ph.D, found out the father of three of her students needed a kidney.
Nate Jones is the father of Aaron, Sydney, and William, students at The Oakridge School in Arlington, Texas.
In spite of not knowing the kids’ father personally, Schecter began to feel like God wanted her to donate her kidney to him. “I know this sounds weird, because I’m not the type of person who hears the voice of God, but I just felt called to give him my kidney. I did not want to. It was not on my list of things to do. So, I just kept thinking that someone else would give him a kidney and that it would work out. … But it kept being on my heart, that I was the person to do it.”
Over the Christmas break in 2018, Schecter talked with her family about what was on her heart. They responded by encouraging her…. Continue reading >https://t.co/SFKomksuWW





Sex is for married heterosexual couples only, says Church of England

6 02 2020

The Church of England has stated that sex belongs only within heterosexual marriage, and that sex in gay or straight civil partnerships “falls short of God’s purpose for human beings”… Continue reading >https://t.co/GFABBXrfmC





Justice Chinwe Eugenia Iyizoba JCA

24 01 2020

Special Valedictory Court Session: (Pictures) Fri 24th Jan 2020





Freedom of Speech, a growing concern

23 01 2020

Here’s a video I found interesting about freedom of speech, a growing concern in Europe and America where freedom of thought is about to be annihilated, rendered meaningless and incoherent.





Love sees what eyes cannot: Victoria & Abdul

7 01 2020
Victoria and Abdul

Those who say that love is blind ignore its power to see what naked eyes cannot. “Victoria and Abdul,” a film of rare artistry based on the true life story of queen Victoria’s blind love for a poor Indian servant, Abdul Karim who, in his turn, saw in her royal heart, a thirst for warmth and affection unquenched by the fawning, kowtowing mass of royal maids and servants.

It was a story of love at first sight. “I think the tall one is terribly handsome,” the queen quipped to a concierge the day after the tall and handsome Abdul and his shorter companion were ushered into her presence to present her with a gift of a gold coin from India.

Things moved quickly as the queen requested that he become her personal attendant much to the consternation of the uppity, scheming, gossipy and crafty royal household.

Consternation turned to anger when the queen made him part of the royal household, appointing him as her personal “munshi” or teacher, and took him in her travels, to banquets, to operas, and even allowed him assist her with the boxes of government papers.  

Anger turned apoplectic when the queen offered him the knighthood and palace gossip spindles furiously wove tapestries of rumors that the queen was unhinged and in love with the munshi.

But the tapestries were shredded into heaps of jumbled rags, when the queen excitedly ordered Abdul to bring his wife to England after learning that he was married. When she arrived, the queen took great pleasure meeting and entertaining her. She even sent her personal physician to assist Abdul and his wife with their difficulty in having children.

What could have drawn the most powerful woman in the world to this lowly Indian prison officer?

Love sees what the naked eyes cannot. Abdul enchanted the queen. While others treated her with great fear and difference, he on the other hand treated her like a person, unafraid; he looked at her, and talked to her like a son would talk to his mother.

Surprised, perhaps even relieved, Queen Victoria responded like a mother and loved him like a son and even more.

Abdul was devoted to Queen Victoria in life and even more in death. After her death, he returned to India and had a life-size stature of her erected at the precincts of the TajMahal, where he would go daily to pray and meditate on the life this great woman.  He wore on his breast a gold locket with her face on it, that she gave him with great devotion even though his Muslim religion forbade graven images.

Abdul actions should is hardly surprising, it is an action born out of gratitude to one who loved him more than a son, in spite of his low birth. The most powerful and feared woman in the world, revered by kings and princes yet stoops to his love and elevating him to her equal.

In many respects his actions repudiates those who disparage devotion to loved ones after their death. Catholics, for example have been knocked around for their devotion to the Blessed Virgin Mary, mother of Jesus, whom they regard as their mother. Yet it is a most natural human reaction. Gratitude comes naturally to those favored by majesty.

When Abdul stooped down and kissed the foot of the queen Victoria at the garden party in one of the early scenes of the movie, he wasn’t in effect worshipping her as one would worship God. Rather, he was reacting in the expected way as anyone would, overwhelmed with gratitude, standing in the someone would react who feels that for some unknown reasons he is the chosen recipient of majestic benevolence despite his low status; a servant love by a queen; a lowly Indian prison officer adored by the Empress of India.

True, it might have been a desperate love between a scheming Indian taking advantage of a bored, desperate and tired old queen whose husband had died many years ago, yet there is no denying its beauty and charm.

Mary was a simple village girl, unaccustomed to the pump and pageantry,  wielded no earthly power while she was on earth–except of course the power of a loving mother whose son is Jesus, King of the universe and on this account, she is far superior to the queen of England.

And from this motherhood draws all her authority, power and grace Christians call her mother because her blessed womb gave them their savior.

Her powers are undiminished by death, but have everlasting potency now that she is heaven body and soul next to her son, Jesus Christ.

Queen Victoria on the other hand was aware that death would end all her powers and render her incapable of protecting Abdul. Thus at the twilight of her life, she implored Abdul to flee England, because “the vultures are already circling” Abdul insisted and remained with her till the end, and faced the spiteful fury of her son, Edward, who dealt mercilessly with him, even before the dust had settled over his mother’s grave. Yet he counted it all as gain, for having been loved by such a mighty one is greater than the suffering endured by the hatred of the world put together, and saw his life as defined by the short span spent by her side.

Many thanks to the casts and director of this movie, and the eagle eyed journalist who uncovered the delightful story, so nearly scrubbed off the annals history by those whose ox were gored by it. 

Chinwuba Iyizoba





Ills of Nude Scenes: Lilly’s story

2 01 2020
Evangeline Lilly

Any self respecting person would be indignant if asked to peep through a key hole to watch people having sex. Yet no one grips at the millions peeping at sex scenes in blockbusters movies. Men, women and children, young and old round the globe sit with glazed eyeball glued on nudities and even perverse sex on their screens and no one bats an eyelid, as Shylock movie directors rake in billions at box offices. But there are hidden costs and sometimes actors and actress pay dearly for it.  Marvel superhero, Evangeline Lilly freshly revealed that nudes she did 20 years ago still haunt her.

Lilly did partial nudes on hit TV show called “Lost” that ran from the mid-to-late 2000s. She said that at 20, she was pressured by cutthroat directors who told her in no uncertain terms to bare it or lose it. She added that she will never do nudes again now that she has control over her career. She said hated those scripts casting her as a sex object.

“I did throw scripts across room when I’d read them,” she scoffed.

And she is not alone. Famous actress, Mila Kunis, was once told she would have to pose half-naked on the cover of a men’s magazine to promote a film. When she refused, a producer reportedly threatened her by saying, “You’ll never work in this town again.”

With executioner’s axe hanging over their contracts, young actors and actress debase themselves on camera; years afterwards, it returns to haunt and humiliate them, their family and friends.

Even though no one talks about it and no advocacy groups fight their causes, it is without doubt that no one should be subjected to this shamefulness.  Normal people cherish their privacy. Few sane men invite their bridge club to watch them making love to their wives or post videos of their bedroom antics online for every eye to see, it shouldn’t be surprising that many actors and actresses deeply detest these roles.

 “I can’t ever imagine myself doing nudity in a film,” superstar Magan Fox told MTV News in 2009. “It lives forever, especially now, with the Internet. I just can’t. I just can’t…Literally all I have left are my private parts and I don’t want to also share them with the world. I’d like to keep them private. That’s why they’re called that!” Read more

 Funny that in backwater Africa, only criminals are paraded naked on the streets, it appears that in the more “civilized societies”, stars that are paraded naked.  Though they drape a cloak of glamour over it, but when the wind blows, it exposes the wrecked lives underneath.

Due to the emotional distress and shame involved in shooting these sex scenes: the presence of entire crew of camera people, set people, makeup artists, and directors barking orders at you–while you’re butt naked and cavorting—many established actress opt out and many more insist on “no nudity clause” in their contract.

Pundits scoff at the adverse effect of nudes. They claim it is just like any other job and that most sex scenes utilize body- double, computer generated images (CGI) and nude colored underwear to provide the illusion of sex, and that there is nothing wrong with it. But block buster don’t come with a rider that sex scenes are CGIs, nor do they deny that in many movie sex scenes involve real sex before camera crew, and that a body-double is still someone’s body.

Actor and actress are professionals but they aren’t immune to the effects of nudes, they are humans, with emotion and passions. It also disrupts social, family ties. Superstar, Julia Robert, a mother of three, feels it is inappropriate for her to do nudes as a parent.

Nudes and sex scenes could account for the unusually high marital infidelity in Hollywood with an average divorce rate of celebrities at 52%, which is 2 times higher than the general population. Female has 62% divorce rate, while the divorce rate of male is 50%  

When all is said and done, no one can deny the evidence that nudes add to the objectification and exploitation of women by the industry, the recent case of Harvey Weinstein whose historic abuse of actresses working for him is still emerging. But the millions of people who watch these movies without discernment contribute indirectly in this objectification.

Furthermore, studies show that watching nudes harms young adults as well. Teen and young adults who watch pornography do less well than their peers in school.

According to brietbiet.com, the Hollywood directors who forced Lily to undress have apologized, but this hardly goes far enough. Hollywood should take responsibility for what has been going on for who knows how long now.

They should thank Lily for bringing it to light, and take a cue from it and learn their scripts: featuring nude scenes can and do violate people’s dignity! They should stop making box office earning and profit their only consideration and encourage people to opt out of nudes without retributions.

Government and regulatory institutions shouldn’t be silent either. They should see to it that movie directors and movie houses do the right thing and initiate changes and those who don’t should pay punitive fines and have their licenses revoked–a good deterrent for those wish to act like pimps and sex traffickers– brutally degrading the dignity of their employees for profit.

Perhaps next time you are tempted to watch a nudes scene, you should look behind the scene to see the tears and anguish of men and women scared for life be their forced debasement for your enjoyment.

By Chinwuba Iyizoba








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